Whether your relationship is brand new or you have been together for quite some time, fights are bound to happen.
How you and your partner respond to those disagreements determines whether that’s the end of your relationship or simply a small hiccup in an otherwise happy union.
There are many ways to make him miss you after a fight, and there’s nothing more attractive than someone who can confidently handle themselves when they feel their worst.
So instead of letting your relationship crumble, use these 18 tips on how to make him miss you after a fight, and let love flourish once again.
18 tips on how to make him miss you after a fight
1) Give him some space
Fighting is never a good sign, but if you immediately show up at your boyfriend’s doorstep with a bunch of flowers in hand, you might be unintentionally pressuring him.
If your partner has always been pretty independent, and you try to cling to him during this tough time, he might feel suffocated.
Instead, give him some space to process his feelings and thoughts on the fight, as well as time to miss you.
Regardless of whether you’re in a new or long-term relationship, giving your partner some space will help him get his head straight. He’ll be more likely to come back to you with positive thoughts and feelings than if you’re constantly trying to get him to open up.
2) Wait for him to text you first
When a fight has left both of you reeling, you should let your partner make the first move. Let him text you first.
You don’t want to seem desperate. You want him to get a chance to think about what happened and come to you. If you give him a chance to miss you, he’ll be eager to text you first and make the first move.
Give him space and time to miss you. Give him the chance to realize that he wants you more than what he’s feeling right now.
While you should definitely respond to texts from your partner, don’t be the first to message or call him. Let the silence between the two of you after a fight grow. Let the silence show your partner that you’re taking time to process what happened.
Let the silence show him that you’re not only hurt, but that you’re letting the hurt subside before reaching out to him.
All in all, wait for your partner to make the first move, and you’ll not only make him miss you more, but you’ll make your relationship stronger.
3) Don’t immediately respond to texts or calls
If your partner is trying to contact you after a fight, don’t answer his call or text right away.
It’s important that you give him the chance to miss you. You don’t want him to think that you’re sitting by the phone waiting to hear from him (even though you probably are).
If he wants to talk, he’ll text or call again later on.
Let him stew in his own thoughts and feelings, and let the silence let him know that you’re still there but you’re letting things cool down between you two for the time being.
If you jump on the phone or send him a text as soon as he initiates contact, he won’t know that you’re not just waiting for him to come to you but that you’re actively working to repair the damage done by the fight.
4) Have fun with your friends
If you’ve been spending most of your time with your boyfriend, now might be the perfect time to re-introduce yourself to your friends.
You see, if you’re in a serious, long-term relationship, chances are that you’re spending most of your time with your partner.
That’s completely normal, but you need to make sure you’re still making time for your friends.
If you’ve been shutting them out, or if you’ve even just been spending a majority of time with your partner and keeping your friends at arm’s length, you need to make sure to reconnect with them.
Friends are great for helping you de-stress, laugh off the bad things in your life, and put things in perspective for you when you can’t see past your relationship.
What’s more, when your partner sees that you’re not sitting at home moping, but instead are having fun going out with your friends, he’s gonna miss you even more.
5) Fill your schedule
If you’ve been spending all of your time cuddled up on the couch with your boyfriend, it might be time to get on the calendar.
Not only will scheduling out your time help you avoid spending too much time with just one person, but it will also give you something to look forward to.
Now, that doesn’t mean that you have to go do something new each day to avoid spending time with your boyfriend, but it does mean that you have to make time for yourself.
Put your calendar to good use, and make sure you’re not only spending time with your boyfriend but you’re also spending time with yourself. Your life doesn’t have to revolve around your boyfriend.
If you spend all of your time with him, he’s going to start feeling like he’s your entire life, which is not a good thing.
Fill your schedule with things that make you happy and not only will you not miss your boyfriend as much but you’ll also make him miss you more.
6) Post photos of yourself having fun on Instagram
If you’ve been spending all of your social media time thinking about how happy you are with your boyfriend, it might be time to add some variety to your feed.
Post photos of you having fun without him!
Trust me, posting photos of you doing new things and enjoying life without him is going to make him miss you. It’s going to make him see that you’re not only happy but also capable of living life without him.
That doesn’t mean that you have to do something drastic like take a vacation without him or do something crazy without him. But it does mean that you should be posting fun photos of your life without him in the frame.
7) Don’t like his social media posts
Remember how we talked about giving him space? Well, this is how you do that.
Don’t like his social media posts. If he posts a photo of himself with his friends at a bar or with his team after an intense game, don’t like it.
Don’t like any of his posts. Pretend you didn’t see them. You want him to think you’re too busy doing other stuff to be looking at his social media.
He’s probably posting the pics for your benefit because he wants you to see that he’s doing well without you.
By not liking his post. You’ll drive him crazy and make him miss you.
8) Look your best
If you’ve been spending too much time in sweats or baggy t-shirts, it might be time to spruce up your wardrobe.
If he hasn’t seen you for a few days and you bump into him somewhere, you wanna make sure you look your very best.
What’s more, dressing up will not only make you look good but feel good and confident too.
When he sees how amazing you look, your boyfriend will realize that he could lose you to some other guy and make him want you more.
9) Show him you need him
If he sees you’re in some kind of trouble, he will come to you without fail.
If he sees that you are weak or exposed in some way, he’ll feel like he needs to protect you and take care of you.
Make him feel that he is the only one who can help you.
10) Apologize if you were in the wrong
If you were the one in the wrong during the fight, do not wait for your boyfriend to apologize first.
Instead, make the first move. Show him that you’re serious about regaining his trust and actively working to make the relationship better again by apologizing first.
Be honest and genuine. Let him know that you realized that you were at fault and that you want to make things right again.
Also be prepared to address any red flags that he may have noticed and make sure that you’re both on the same page with regards to expectations and what you want out of the relationship.
For example, if you were hanging out with your friends and he felt like you were ignoring him, be prepared to explain what was happening and let him know that you want him to be a part of that group.
11) Post a happy picture of a trip you took together on social media
If you and your boyfriend took a trip together, post a picture of you two smiling and having fun together.
That’s not only going to make you happier but it’s also going to remind him of the good times that he spent with you.
And that’s what you want, for him to remember how much he loves you and being with you – for him to miss you.
12) Make him jealous
Here’s another thing:
If you want your boyfriend to miss you, start flirting with other guys when he’s around.
You don’t want to overdo it, but you want him to realize that you could have your pick of any guy you want.
When he sees that you are still attractive to other guys, he’ll realize how lucky he is to have you and he’ll miss you even more.
13) Recognize when you’re both at fault
If you’re both at fault, admit that fact. It’s important not to make one person the bad guy.
For example, if you and your boyfriend had a huge fight because he forgot to do something that you asked him to do, don’t blame him completely; take responsibility too and apologize for getting upset.
That way he knows that you’re willing to work through the issue together and that you want to make things right.
14) Commit to self-care
In many cases, fighting happens when one partner isn’t getting the attention they need.
When you feel like you’re not receiving the proper amount of love, attention or respect, it’s easy to become frustrated. This can result in a fight, as you want to express your feelings but your partner might not be in a space to listen.
To avoid this type of disagreement from escalating into something more serious, you must commit to self-care.
This doesn’t mean you’re putting yourself first all the time. It simply means you’re taking the proper time for yourself so that you don’t feel as if you’re neglecting yourself for the sake of others.
During an argument, one of the best ways to avoid responding with aggression is to make sure you’re taking proper care of yourself.
15) Show him you can be the kind of person he wants to be with
A good way to get your boyfriend to miss you is to show him that you can be the kind of person he wants to be with.
When you and your boyfriend are in a fight, it’s easy to get caught up in the moment and say things you don’t mean.
But if you can take a step back, look at the situation and realize that it’s not about who’s right or wrong and who’s being hurtful; it’s about making things better, then you can create a plan for how you’re going to do that.
You want your boyfriend to know that he can count on you when times are tough; so make sure he knows that.
16) Commit to working together to find a solution
When you and your partner are in fight mode, it can be difficult to come up with a solution to your problems.
You might feel too upset to think straight, and he may be too caught up in his emotions to be able to offer you any useful solutions.
But the best way to get through a disagreement is to commit to working together to find a solution.
If you’re feeling frustrated, use that emotion to fuel your problem-solving abilities instead of letting it control you. Similarly, if you’re feeling upset but you’re not sure what to do, let him lead the way.
The bottom line is that when you’re both working together to find a solution, you’re not just ending the fight—you’re building a stronger relationship.
17) Don’t respond to aggression with more aggression
When you respond to aggression with more aggression, you are entering into a cycle that can be difficult to get out of.
When your partner reacts angrily to your words, it’s common to want to match his level of emotion to defend yourself.
But responding in the same way that he did to you doesn’t help solve anything.
While it might feel like you’re standing your ground, you might actually be digging a deeper hole.
For example, if you say something like “I can see you’re angry, but that doesn’t give you the right to treat me this way”, you’re expressing yourself with the maturity of someone who wants the best for their relationship.
If you respond with words that are equally as aggressive, you’re not making anything better—you’re only making the situation worse.
18) Get busy
When you’re in a fight with your boyfriend, you may be tempted to spend all of your time thinking about the fight and what you’re going to say next.
If you do this, it can be easy to miss out on other things that are happening in your life.
To avoid getting caught up in the fight, try to get busy with other activities and interests.
For example, if you have a hobby that you enjoy or want to learn a new skill, this is a great time to do so. It will help you take your mind off of the fight and keep yourself occupied while also making sure that you’re growing as an individual.
Not only will this make you feel good, but it will make him miss you when he sees that you’re living your life to the fullest.
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