An introvert is a complicated creature with sensitivities that are difficult to understand.
This can be especially problematic when they are in a relationship.
That’s why we put together this list of 25 things to make an introvert miss you.
Read it with care and use it wisely!
1) Plan activities and outings that require minimal energy from you but lots of energy from them
Think about this for a moment:
If you are about to do something that will require a lot of energy from you, why can’t you bring your introvert along?
Try to limit your energy demands and try to let them contribute their share.
In the end, a win-win situation is created.
In fact, a lot of introverts can become very active when their energies are needed (e.g. in a meeting).
In contrast, they may feel very drained and anxious as energy levels decrease after an activity (e.g. going home with work unfinished).
So, plan an activity that makes them feel energized, but also allows their energies to decrease gradually.
2) Leave notes with messages that inspire them to get out of the house and socialize
According to the Myers Briggs Type Indicator, the feeling of inferiority is a big challenge for introverts.
This means that they may not be able to summon enough courage to leave the house and socialize.
That’s why you must help them by leaving messages that inspire them to get out of the house and socialize.
Here’s the step-by-step process:
- Think about the things that inspire them to get out of the house and socialize.
- Think of things that will make them feel good about themselves.
- Write these things down on a piece of paper and leave it somewhere they’ll find them.
Also, keep in mind that your words are very important to them, so think carefully about what you want to say.
You’ll be surprised by how they’ll react to these notes and this way can definitely make any introvert miss you.
3) Get help from a gifted advisor
When introverts feel a strong emotion (e.g. interest, love, passion), they tend to go into their shell.
This is because their senses become overwhelmed and feel overwhelmed when they go into their shell (e.g. spaced out).
So, if you want them to get out of their shell, you can get help from a gifted advisor.
After a really challenging effort to make my introvert miss me, I found that speaking to an advisor from Psychic Source was super helpful.
The advisor I spoke to was kind, understanding, and genuinely helpful.
My love reading gave me the guidance I was looking for (and needed) during a painful and confusing time.
Not only can a gifted advisor tell you whether or not this is the right time to be pursuing a relationship with an introvert, but they can also reveal all your love possibilities.
4) Remember little details
Details are everything in a relationship.
Introverts don’t like big gestures because they feel overwhelmed, but they would love to know that you really understand them.
That’s why you should remember little details about them and then bring them up in conversations.
We all love to talk about ourselves, so this could be an easy way to get the introvert you’re trying to win over talking about themselves!
So how do you know when to bring up these little details?
It’s simple. You should do it whenever the introvert feels comfortable enough around you to feel that it’s appropriate.
Once again, this is all about finding the best time to drop your little tidbits into your conversations.
If you’re able to do this then it’s guaranteed that they’ll miss you!
5) Invite him/her over for dinner and a movie, but don’t insist on conversation
Here’s the truth:
Introverts can’t always talk at the same pace that extroverts do.
In fact, introverts may prefer a more laid-back and relaxing conversation.
This might seem boring to you, but it is important to them so you should respect their needs.
What’s more, they are likely longing for a conversation that has some substance that allows them to connect with you on a deeper level.
It’s important to help them by taking them out to a nice dinner and a movie (they will absolutely love the food and see all the movies that you’ve seen before, so it’s a win-win situation).
However, don’t force them to have normal conversations or to talk at their normal pace.
Instead, let them relax and really get into the movie and other activities.
6) Be supportive of their interests even if they conflict with your own
Another effective way to get your introvert to miss you is by being supportive of their interests even if they conflict with your own.
Remember that introverts have a hard time involving themselves in social situations.
So, it will be hard for them to get excited about anything that would involve them in a large social gathering.
However, you should encourage your introvert to take small steps and get more involved.
Just be patient and support them while they try to get out there and get involved in activities that they want.
This is especially important if you’ve already taken the huge step of asking them to be your significant other!
7) Spend time with them when they’re feeling low
Imagine what it would be like:
It’s the end of a stressful week for your introvert.
They’ve been working their tails off, but have realized that they haven’t accomplished anything.
Not only did they fail to get challenging work done, but the meeting that tested their ability to get things done was also a failure (at least in their eyes).
Not only is he/she losing sleep, but they’re not even sure if they can face another day.
This is where you come in.
Upon seeing them so stressed out and upset, you offer to take the day off together.
That way, you can spend time together doing something fun and relaxing (e.g. going on a walk or lying in bed watching movies).
Don’t force your introvert to talk too much and just let them do what they feel like doing.
If they don’t want to talk, then let them be silent.
Just spend time with them so they know that you care and they will miss this time with you!
8) Send notes with encouraging things on them in your own handwriting
If you genuinely care about the introvert you’re trying to win over then it’s important to show them that you care.
The best way to do this is by sending notes that have encouraging things on them in your own handwriting.
You can show your love by writing messages such as “I think you’re incredible” or “You’re so smart and funny.”
It doesn’t even have to be that emotional.
You can also send them a note that says, “I can’t wait to see you tomorrow.”
This might sound overly sentimental, but your messages will help them remember how you feel about them and will make them miss you!
9) Give them a sincere compliment when they least expect it
Your compliments will help them because they’ll feel like someone took their feelings into consideration.
Since introverts are the least likely to ask for a compliment, you should be the first person who does it.
It’s okay to tell them that they’re doing well and have something meaningful to say regardless of what they think of their work or habits.
They can’t expect everyone to think positively about them, so you should show your wonderful thoughts with a sincere compliment whenever you see fit.
Some thoughtful introductory lines, examples are below:
- “You have an amazing smile. I can’t wait to see it!”
- “You’re a wonderful person and an amazing friend. I hope we can be more than that in the future.”
- “You’re hilarious and an amazing friend. Here’s to many more laughs! ”
10) Show up unannounced or send a text saying “I miss you”
Trust me, I’m not exaggerating when I say that this is one of the best ways to get your introvert to miss you.
You should show up at their house unannounced or send them a text message saying something like, “I miss you. I can’t wait to see you.”
This will make your introvert feel important and loved.
It will also let them know that you truly care about them and aren’t just there to get stuff done.
Introverts are always on the lookout for a personal connection.
This means that they’ll feel like someone truly cares about them and won’t forget about them as quickly as extroverts might.
11) Let them take the lead
The truth is:
Introverts aren’t usually very comfortable leading a conversation.
Whether it’s because they’re shy or because they feel like they have nothing to say, introverts won’t be able to build a natural conversation for very long.
That’s why you need to let your introvert take the lead when the two of you are talking.
Listen to them and let them say whatever comes to mind immediately.
This might sound weird, but you’ll be surprised at how much more effective it is than you think.
Here are a few steps that you can take to implement this technique and get your introvert to miss you:
- Step 1: Listen to your introvert when they’re talking.
- Step 2: Repeat what they just said back to them. This will help them feel like someone is listening and that you have a strong bond with them.
- Step 3: Ask for more information. This will be an easy way for your love interest to talk without feeling any pressure.
12) Share secrets with them
Based on what you’ve learned so far, you know that introverts love a personal connection.
This means that they’ll feel like someone truly cares about them when you share a deep secret with them.
Not only will they feel important to you, but they can also bond with you over this secret.
This will be one of the most effective ways to get your introvert to miss you and be in a better mood.
It will also go a long way in helping your relationship develop further.
Don’t worry, you don’t have to share the deepest secrets that you can think of.
You can even share a fun secret with them.
13) Avoid conversations with group activities
There’s a good chance that your introvert won’t be able to handle a large group of people at once.
That’s because small talk isn’t exactly their forte.
This is why you should avoid conversations during group activities and always have time for your introvert one-on-one.
This will make them feel like they’re special and allow you to strengthen your relationship with them.
Want to know the best part?
As long as you’re always spending time alone with your introvert they’ll be able to miss you.
Although they might not be able to talk a lot and look at your face, they’ll still have plenty of time to think about how much you mean to them.
14) Teach them something new
There’s no better way to make your introvert miss you than to teach them something new.
They’ll feel so proud and special when they’re the first person to learn something new.
This will go a long way in your relationship and you’ll have a chance to really bond with them.
There are many ways that you can teach your introvert something new without having to spend a lot of time with them.
For example, you could:
- Invite them over for a cooking class (bonus points if you have the skills to make a killer dish)
- Take them to a park so that they can try skateboarding or something else that they’ve always wanted to learn.
- Share a new hobby that you’ve recently discovered with them.
All of these ways to teach your introvert something new will help them miss you and keep your relationship strong.
15) Talk on the phone instead of meeting up face-to-face when possible
Introverts are great communicators, but they’re not always comfortable talking to a lot of different people at once.
This is why you should talk on the phone instead of meeting up face-to-face with your introvert.
It will give them a chance to share their thoughts without feeling uncomfortable about it.
They will also appreciate the time that you’ve given them to share their thoughts.
Not only will this help you keep your relationship strong, but it will also help you get into a positive mindset.
Introverts appreciate this, as they are typically shy and prefer to talk one-on-one.
This means they will miss you a lot if you don’t get online frequently and call them up to chat.
16) Have plenty of one-sided conversations to fill the silence with laughter and good vibes
Here’s an interesting fact:
Introverts don’t always need a conversation partner to have a good time.
They can have just as much fun when they’re alone, whether it’s with their friends or on their own.
That means that you should be able to make your introvert miss you by filling the silence with positive vibes and laughter.
When your introvert finally has a chance to talk, they’ll feel great to be able to share their thoughts.
But also remember that you should have some one-sided conversations that focus on the positive aspects of your relationship.
This will help you form a strong bond with them and make them feel like they can share anything with you.
17) Ask what they want instead of assuming you know what they would enjoy
Introverts aren’t always the best at sharing their thoughts and feelings.
They’ve learned how to become reserved in order to protect themselves from judgment and approval.
That’s why you should avoid assuming that you know what your introvert wants out of life.
Instead, you should ask them what they would like in every situation.
But as you know, this can be difficult for an introvert to do.
That’s why I recommend speaking to one of the gifted advisors over at Psychic Source.
I mentioned them earlier.
They’ve been incredibly helpful in the past when I’ve needed guidance on my love life, and they’ll certainly be able to help you with your introvert.
Whether you prefer to chat online, or jump on a call and speak face-to-face, you can get clarity on this situation right now.
18) Make a habit of texting first
There’s no better way to make your introvert miss you than to start texting first.
As I’ve told you before, your introvert will miss you more when they feel that you’re thinking about them.
By texting first, they’ll feel like they have a connection with you, and they can learn more about what’s going on in your life.
This will make them feel special and help you avoid the frustration that comes from waiting for your introvert to text you.
Best way to start texting first?
Ask a simple question that won’t make your introvert feel like they’re being attacked.
Something like, “how is your day?” is always a good choice.
Then ask about their day and give them the opportunity to share more.
You’ll be able to enjoy a great conversation with your introvert and make progress toward your relationship goals.
19) Say “yes” more often
Your introvert has learned to say “no” a lot.
They’ve learned that saying “yes” can make them vulnerable and put them in situations that they don’t want to be in.
As an introvert, I know how this feels.
It’s an incredibly uncomfortable feeling. And you want to avoid it at all costs.
That’s why you should say “yes” more often.
By saying yes, your introvert will feel more comfortable with you and won’t be as afraid of putting themselves in a vulnerable position.
This will make them miss you more and help your relationship grow closer.
20) Let them win the argument
According to Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D., “Introverts have a great capacity for coming up with creative, yet effective solutions to the problems they face.”
This means that your introvert is likely to be a great problem solver and will always have your back when things go wrong.
However, your introvert loves having their own space and prefers to be quiet most of the time.
This means that they might struggle with situations where they are having to fight for what they want.
If this is the case, let them win.
When an introvert wins a battle, everything feels better and more relaxed.
They will feel like they were able to stand up for their own beliefs, and that will make them miss you more than you think.
21) Be patient with pauses in conversation
One of the best ways to make your introvert miss you and feel better about your relationship is to be patient.
Your introvert will often take pauses in conversation, and it can feel like they’re not listening.
The truth is that they are taking this pause to think about what you’re saying, but they’re just trying to get their thoughts together before they respond.
As an anxious person myself, I know how frustrating it can be when someone doesn’t listen to me or explain what I mean.
I have to fight back the urge to jump right in and start talking.
But by being patient, your introvert will be more likely to open up and share what they’re thinking.
Introverts respond well to patience.
You’ll have better results by being patient with them and letting them figure things out on their own.
22) Share good gossip with them
Introverts love to talk about themselves, and they love to be around people who are like-minded.
If you have a great piece of gossip that relates to your introvert, share it with them.
This means that you should be able to get your introvert to miss you by comparing them to someone else or sharing an embarrassing story about them.
Remember how much they love being compared to other people?
They’ll feel so good when they realize that you want them more than anyone.
I know how this feels myself.
There’s nothing like getting a text from the person you love and talking about something that makes them feel smart and important.
And as an introvert myself, I know how much it helps to have someone in your life who knows what you’re thinking.
23) Make them feel like a big deal by only letting them know about your plans when you’re close to starting
Introverts will feel so good when you tell them about your plans.
They’ll get excited, and that’s because a part of them will realize how important you think they are.
That idea can make them miss you so much.
If you don’t want to tell them about your plans early, wait until it’s something big that could affect their life.
You could tell them a week before, or you could wait until the day of.
The more anxiety your introvert feels about missing out on something, the better they’ll miss you.
24) Give them a pet that needs attention 24/7
Most introverts love animals.
If your introvert doesn’t have their own pet, this will change their life for the better.
The great thing about animals is that they will always crave attention, and your introvert will be happy to provide it.
They’ll spend all of their time thinking about how they can get more time with you by spending a lot of time with their pet.
And if you’re willing to make the investment, be sure to get them a pet that requires a lot of care.
I would recommend three weeks at least.
This will give your introvert plenty of time to think about how much they need you in their life.
25) Point out their strengths
Introverts love to think about their weaknesses.
It makes them feel bad about themselves, and they prefer to be alone so they can work on their weaknesses.
A great way to get your introvert to miss you is by pointing out their strengths.
This type of compliment will make them feel good and help them see the glass as half-full instead of half-empty.
For example, when you see a photo of your introvert that you really like, share it on social media.
Or when your introvert is happy with a piece of work, point out how awesome it is.
This will make them feel better about themselves and help them see that they’re more than just some introverts.
They have outstanding qualities that shouldn’t be ignored.
As you can see, there are many ways to make your introvert miss you, but the toughest is by admitting that you have feelings for them.
However, if you do want to create the feeling in yourself that your introvert misses you, think of a way to make them feel better.
Be sure to let them know that they’re special and that they should take care of their own life.
And if you’re still unsure, I recommend getting in touch with a trustworthy advisor.
I mentioned Psychic Source earlier. Based on my own personal experience with them, I know they’re kind and genuinely helpful.
So instead of leaving things up to chance, take control of this situation and clarify what’s in store for your future.
Speaking to one of their experienced advisors was a turning point for me, and I think it could be for you too. Especially if you want to find out about your relationship with your introvert.
Can a relationship coach help you too?
If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.
I know this from personal experience…
A few months ago, I reached out to Relationship Hero when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.
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