Nothing is worse than loving someone who thinks you’re crazy. What do you do in that situation, how can you keep loving them?
If that is you, keep reading to find the answers:
Find out why they think you are crazy
The first step to be able to love them while they are loving you back is to know why they think you are crazy.
Ask yourself what is the reason this person thinks you are crazy.
Is it because you are too affectionate? Is it because you are too persistent? Is it because you keep trying to make them love you?
Knowing the reason will help you tailor your efforts to not be crazy and to prove to them that you are not.
Now, actually, I take that back. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone.
However, knowing the reason why they think you’re crazy can help you with self-reflection.
Is there a part of you that might have truly acted a bit crazy?
Sometimes we all do, and that’s okay, as long as we realize that we need to work on a few things on our end!
Understand the truth about unrequited love
You might be thinking that if it is unrequited love, should you stop loving them?
Should you stop pursuing them? Should you stop caring for them?
All the above questions are difficult to answer.
Generally, when you love someone, it does not matter if the other person loves you back.
You are capable of loving them just as much and in some cases, even more.
There is nothing wrong with loving someone who does not love you back. In fact, it is a beautiful thing to show how strong and unconditional love can be.
However, you can’t get hung up on a person who doesn’t love you back.
You can love them from a distance and move on.
Justin Brown summarizes this perfectly in his video “The brutal truth about unrequited love in the modern age”
If you feel like you are in a position of unrequited love, this video will open your eyes and give you a new perspective on your situation, believe me!
Come to terms with the fact that they might never love you back
One thing you must come to terms with when you are in unrequited love is that this person might never love you back.
This might be your only hurdle.
You might be asking why am I still trying to win their love when they have clearly expressed that they do not like me in that way?
Because you love them because you don’t want to lose them because you don’t want to see them get hurt because you don’t want to let go of the hope that they might change their mind and love you back.
And because you have not found the right time to let go and move on.
I know, it’s difficult, and these are all valid reasons for holding on, but at some point, you need to accept and let go.
Distractions are great for unrequited love.
There are many ways to distract yourself so that you can forget about the person you are in love with.
You can focus on your work, your studies, and your passions.
You can also try and find new hobbies and new things to do.
Find new people to meet and new things to spend your time on.
You should try to pay attention to your surroundings and what is happening around you.
You see, you should try to be in the moment as much as possible.
These distractions will help you forget about the person you are in love with for a little while and once you have forgotten about them for a while, it will be easier for you to forget about them for good.
Know your own worth and value
When you are in love with someone who thinks you are crazy, you might start to value yourself less, feel that you are less worthy, and think that you are not good enough for them.
You might want them to be with you so badly that you start to feel that you are not good enough for them.
You feel like you don’t deserve them and your worth falls down because you are in love with someone who does not feel the same way as you do.
The truth is, you need to know your own worth and know that you are an amazing person who deserves all the love in the world.
You are worth being loved and there are a lot of people out there who would love to be with you.
Surround yourself with friends and loved ones
Sometimes, the person you are in love with might be someone really close to you, like a friend or a family member.
Other times, it might be someone you have met recently. It might be someone at work or a classmate.
When you are in love with someone who thinks you are crazy, it is important that you don’t keep it to yourself.
You need to talk to people about it and you need to let them know how you feel.
You need to tell them about your feelings for that person and how you feel.
Talking to people about how you feel will help you come out of your shell and you might find that you feel a lot better about yourself.
You might also find that it is easy for you to let go of that person when you know that you have people around you who love and care for you.
Work on yourself
When you are in love with someone who thinks you are crazy, people tend to advise you to forget about them and move on with your life.
While this might be a good piece of advice, you also need to work on yourself.
What do I mean by that? Well, you need to work on yourself as a person.
You need to become a better you so that the next time you fall in love, you will find someone who will love you back.
The thing is, if you settle for people who don’t love you or think you are crazy, a part of you believes that this is what you deserve.
But that’s not the case, so you need to work on yourself in order to raise your standards.
You might feel that love is not in the cards for you, but that doesn’t mean you can’t improve yourself as a person.
Sometimes, we fall in love with the wrong people or we don’t find love because we don’t know how to let it in.
Focus on your life and not on them
In unrequited love, you tend to forget about your life and forget about everything that you were doing before you were in love.
It can be very easy to focus on the person you are in love with and forget about the wonderful things that make up your life.
You need to make sure that you don’t do this. You need to make sure that you don’t forget the things that make up your life because of the person you are in love with.
Simply put, you need to make sure that you don’t put everything else on hold because of someone who doesn’t love you back.
You have to make it a priority that you don’t forget or lose sight of the things that make you who you are.
You need to make sure that you don’t forget about your passions, your hobbies, and your interests.
Become the best version of yourself possible
When you fall in love and you are in unrequited love, it is easy to see the faults in yourself and focus on them.
You might be thinking that you are not good enough for them or that you are not good enough to be with them.
Even though they don’t love you back, that doesn’t say anything about you.
While you are thinking about how you don’t deserve them and that they deserve someone better, you need to focus on becoming the best version of yourself possible.
You need to work on yourself so that you can become the best person you can be.
You see, you have to ensure that you don’t just focus on your faults and your mistakes.
Becoming the best version of yourself will help with your confidence and will help you to move on from unrequited love.
When it all boils down to it, you need to move on from the person you are in love with.
You need to be able to forget about them and move on with your life.
When you are in love with someone who thinks you are crazy, it is not easy.
In fact, it is one of the hardest things you will ever go through, but it is something that you need to go through and something that you need to come out of stronger.
When you have loved someone who did not love you back, you feel like a part of you has died.
However, that doesn’t mean you can’t move on and become happier than ever before!
Don’t get hung up on this person, move on and find the person you are meant to be with!
It will be okay
No matter what, you will be okay. Eventually, you will find the person you are meant to be with and things will fall into place.
You are not crazy and you will be okay.
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