There’s no emotion that could ever match what it feels to be in a new relationship.
From your first date to your first vacation, it just feels like everything is magical. Suddenly, you find it easier to get up in the morning and the world doesn’t feel that bad of a place.
Everything seems to be going great but how do you know if you’re really meant to be?
Well, you’re in luck because we have here 15 ways to know early on if he’s the one:
1) You don’t have to force it
Have you ever tried exerting so much effort just to get a guy to notice you? Don’t worry, we’ve all been there.
With your past crushes, maybe you tried your hardest to make it work. Perhaps you also stalked him outside of his class and pretended to bump into him in the hallway!
But even after so much effort, your relationship still didn’t pan out the way that you wanted it to.
But with this new relationship, have you noticed that things just serendipitously fell into place? You just naturally gravitated towards each other.
There was no need to stage all sorts of “coincidences” for you to spend time together. You find yourself falling in love organically and it doesn’t feel forced in any way.
Is this what people mean when they talk about destiny? Yes, it can definitely be real. If this describes your relationship, that may be a sign that he’s the one.
2) You share the same core values and principles
Don’t underestimate the importance of having similar ideals with a potential lifetime partner. This is a crucial mistake that you don’t want to make!
Maybe when you’re just starting out, it feels like these are things that you can just overlook. But you’ll soon find that this should be a non-negotiable from the start. You don’t suddenly want to wake up and realize that you’re living with a totally different person.
These are some of the questions that you should ask early on: What are the core values that he strives to live out in his life? What is the purpose that he’s trying to achieve in his lifetime?
What are his stances on major political issues? How about his convictions regarding religion? Bring up controversial topics and listen to his thoughts and how he argues about them.
This also refers to his opinions on relationships. Does he value marriage? How does he define an ideal relationship?
It’s essential that you’re aligned on the things that matter. You want to be able to fight for the same battles and advocacies with your partner.
3) You have compatible personalities
Another way that you’ll know he’s the one is if you have complementary personalities.
First off, you find that you have a lot of similarities in terms of character traits. Perhaps you’re both sensitive to certain things. Maybe you initially hit it off because you are both imaginative, passionate, and artistic in the same way.
But you also have key differences which complement each other. Your partner can be more introverted than you. Or you can be much more emotional and empathetic than him.
These differences balance you out and truly help you to grow. If you have exactly the same personality traits, it’ll be more difficult to see your blind spots. Being with someone who thinks differently may help you improve these weaknesses and the same goes for him.
All in all, both of these similar and different traits make you irresistible to each other.
4) You can be yourself with each other
Isn’t it just the best thing ever when you don’t have to hide anything from your partner? You can fully be yourself and he’s not trying to change you at all. In fact, he embraces you completely!
You find that you can talk for hours on end without even noticing it. There’s always something to talk about because conversations flow so naturally.
You’re both comfortable sharing your secrets with the other person. He never judges you for anything you may have done in the past.
He also accepts you just as you are. Your partner may be aware of all your weaknesses, mistakes, and flaws, but he still chooses to be with you.
You don’t have to keep your sense of humor to yourself. The two of you can laugh at the weirdest things and there’s never any shame in that.
He doesn’t nitpick your preferences and interests. You don’t feel like you should always be the best version of yourself. He loves you even if you’re dressed up or dressed down.
If this perfectly describes your guy, you know you’ve got a keeper!
5) Your friends and family love each other
Okay, so you’ve introduced each other to your respective family and friends. That’s a great first step! It means that you plan on being in each other’s lives for a long time.
But if your friends and family also love your guy and each other, that is an even better sign! It’s really important that he loves your family and you love his.
More often than not, it is these people who can really tell if your relationship is good for you. They’ve seen you be with other people and they can distinguish a toxic relationship from a healthy one.
If they constantly tease you two together, you’ll know that they’re not-so-secretly rooting for you guys!
6) It feels like it’s the best relationship that you’ve ever had
This applies to you if you’ve had experience in a lot of different relationships in the past. By now, you probably are very aware of what you want and don’t want in a relationship.
You’ll know that he is the one if he is so unlike any of your toxic ex-boyfriends. Red flags from previous relationships don’t show up at any point. It just feels so refreshing how great it is compared to any relationship that you’ve ever had.
7) You’re both invested in the relationship
Are you both equally committed to each other in the same ways? This is one of the signs that you’ll know if your relationship is going to lead to something more.
You’ll know he’s invested in your relationship if he shows it through his actions. Does he prepare thoughtful birthday gifts for you in the same way that you do for him? Is he willing to go out of his way to make you smile?
He should also be genuinely excited to go on dates with you. Does he consistently plan your hangouts in advance? Can you see his face lighting up when you walk into the room?
And no, this isn’t just the stuff of romantic movies. A guy who is on the same page in terms of commitment will truly make an effort to show you that he is.
8) You are each other’s best friend
It’s so obvious that you’re each other’s best friend if you are the first person that he comes to for anything. When he has a problem, does he run to you for advice? Are you the first person that he talks to when he gets promoted at work?
You know each other inside and out. It’s like telepathy — you can already tell what he’s about to say before he even speaks. Both of you can understand each other in a way that other people just can’t.
He is your biggest fan and supporter. He constantly encourages you to fight for your dreams.
9) He’s genuinely interested in your life
He’s the one if he always shows that he’s interested in you and your life.
He cares about your opinion on even the most trivial of things. This kind of guy is genuinely curious about your favorite music, song, artist, or anything under the sun.
He also remembers the little things that you like. When he can, he will also make an effort to give these things to you. Your favorite Starbucks order? He can recite that in his sleep.
Maybe he also shows this by always asking for updates on how your day went. And even if all you did was just typical work stuff, he’ll still want to know all the details.
These little things matter to him because you matter to him. It’s as simple as that.
10) He doesn’t have any relationship baggage
Perhaps he’s also had his fair share of toxic relationships in the past. But he’s healed from these since then and he’s ready to move on.
From the start of your relationship, he’s clarified that he wants to start fresh with you. It is not his intention to bring any emotional baggage that he once had in the past.
If you ask him, of course, he can still be completely honest about his previous relationships. But he’s not the type to constantly bring up past girlfriends out of spite.
He will never even think about comparing you to his exes. For him, it is all ancient history. You are the most important person to him now and all he wants is to make you feel secure in the relationship.
11) You can both be fun and serious together
You absolutely love being with him because you guys have so much fun together. Overall, he’s such an easygoing, funny, and entertaining guy to be with.
You’re both interested in the same hobbies and activities. Whether it’s parasailing, doing pranks on each other, or simply watching movies, you always have a good time when you’re together.
But he’s not the type of guy who just sticks around during the fun times. He’s also there for you during the serious moments.
A guy like this knows when it’s the right time to crack a joke or when it’s more appropriate to cry with you and share your pain. He’s not afraid of talking about heavier topics.
You’ll know that he takes this relationship seriously if he shows that he’s in this for the long haul. For better or for worse, he’ll make sure to stick by your side no matter what.
12) He has his life together
It’s a really good sign if your guy already has a specific plan and direction for his life. You can clearly see him working towards these goals in visible and concrete ways.
He’s financially stable and has a good job or career. This shows that he’s responsible and has a strong sense of accountability.
It’s also great if he is independent and doesn’t need to over-rely on others for basic necessities.
And speaking of the future…
13) You are a part of his future plans
He’s not just focused on his own path, but he’s also concerned about yours. It’s because as of now, you are already an undeniable part of his.
He wants to know where you’ll be in 5-10 years. As much as possible, he also asks if your timelines are aligned.
He doesn’t avoid these types of serious conversations. In fact, he’s the one who always brings it up! This may be his subtle way of letting you know that he’s committed to this relationship.
14) You’re going in the same direction
Even if he always asks you about your future plans, it won’t really matter if you aren’t heading in the same direction.
These are a few questions that you need to ask yourself and your partner:
Do you plan to live in the same city for the next few years? Are your ideal lifestyles compatible with one another? Do you think you’re in similar stages or phases in your life?
Does he have the same thoughts on marriage as you do? Are you on the same page in terms of having or not having kids?
If your answer to these questions is a confident “YES!”, you’re well on your way to a fulfilling relationship that’s going to last.
15) You have the same level of emotional maturity
Your level of emotional maturity can truly make or break a relationship. Here are a few signs that both of you can manage each other’s emotions well.
You are both able to handle conflict in the right way. For a relationship to work, you shouldn’t let the day pass until you’ve at least tried to reconcile whatever disagreement you’ve had. He’s also learned how to compromise so you can both find an agreeable solution.
But during conflicts, you also know when it’s the right time to give each other space to think. After a few days apart, you make sure to always come back to each other and talk it out.
Both of you are great listeners. You can acknowledge each other’s experiences and validate the other person’s feelings.
Can you honestly say that you also respect each other’s differences? You’ve accepted that you will have varying opinions, perspectives, and backgrounds. Despite all of these, you know in your heart that you’ll never change a thing.
You can be totally honest with each other about everything. Your actions match your words. With this, you also trust the other person completely.
You also don’t feel the need to be with the other person 24/7. Both of you recognize that you have other friends and interests outside of your relationship and that’s perfectly normal and healthy.
He may also have a selfless approach to the relationship. For him, he’s not always looking for what he can get out of the relationship. He’s more concerned about how he can make you happy and content. It’s not the other way around.
So is he the one?
There are obviously many other ways to know that you’re in a serious relationship. But overall, these signs are a good starting point to know if you have a future together.
If you can’t see yourself and your partner in the instances we’ve mentioned, you don’t have to panic. Every relationship is different and your circumstances can vary.
Maybe your relationship isn’t ideal in the way that we described it, but it doesn’t mean that you’ll never get there.
Or if you really can’t see that you are ever going to reach this place, that’s also okay! Maybe your ideal guy is still out there and you’re meant for a better relationship.
But either way, we wish you all the best in your quest for true love and companionship. We hope that everything works out in the way that is right for you.
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