How to get your ex girlfriend back fast: 10 quick steps

Did your girlfriend break up with you?

In that case, you might want to know how to win her back fast.

Most articles online talk about long and tedious methods to win her over, but we’ll make it quick and easy with these 10 steps!

Here are 10 quick steps to win her over

Step 1: Don’t contact her for a few days

Okay, if everything goes well, this first step will actually take the longest of them all!

While I know you want to win her back as quickly as you possibly can, right after she broke up with you it’s important that you allow a little bit of time and space, even if just for a few days!

This will show her that you are strong enough to not be affected by the breakup and that you are able to cope with it.

Contacting her right away will show her that you are weak and that the breakup affected you greatly.

This will make her feel bad and she might even start pitying you.

This is definitely not what you want. Let her have her space and time to heal.

But that’s not all! Those few days of distance will also serve you well while you are preparing to win her back.

During this time, you will have more than enough to do, believe me, so it will fly by!

And the best part of it all?

She will have time to miss you! Think about it: while you’re together, she will have you around all the time, so she will get used to having you there.

But when she starts missing you, and realizes how much she misses being with you, she will be more likely to want to give your relationship another chance.

One thing you need to remember is to be confident.

This is one of the most important tips in this guide! You must be confident in yourself and your actions if you expect her to fall for it.

If you are not confident, then there’s a good chance that your ex-girlfriend will notice it and then it’ll be all over before it even began!

So be sure to follow this tip closely.

After a few days of space, when you contact her again, make sure that she notices that you are confident with your actions and words.

Whatever makes sense at the moment is fine! Just keep in mind what we talked about above: don’t sound desperate or needy.

Let her know that you are there for her when she needs you. A few days is all you need.

Now, before we get ahead of ourselves here, let’s take a look at what you can do in the meantime:

Step 2: Figure out why she broke up and if you can do anything about it

While you are doing your little break from contacting her, you can use that time to figure out why she broke up with you and if you can do anything about it.

Did she give you a reason for the break up?

If so, you need to figure out what it is.

This way, you’ll know what you need to do to get her back.

For example, did she say you play too many games? Then you need to try and limit that.

Maybe she said you are too possessive? Then you need to relax your grip on her.

Whatever the reason is, you need to try and do something about it.

If she didn’t give you a reason for the breakup, you need to figure out if there’s anything you can do about it.

You can choose to be more confident, work on your communication skills, or do anything else that might have caused the breakup. This way, you’ll be able to win her back.

You see when someone breaks up with you and tells you why they are essentially giving you a roadmap to how you can win them back.

If you don’t follow the map, then you are pretty much lost.

Here’s the thing though: don’t try to fix everything at once!

You need to figure out what the main issue is and then focus on that first.

Once you have dealt with that, then move on to the next issue.

This way, you’ll be able to win her back without making any mistakes or errors.

The thing is, I know you want to win her back fast, but chances are, doing what she wants requires some change on your part.

The thing about change is that you can’t do everything overnight, that’s not sustainable, so pick the things that seem the most important to her.

Once you have figured that out, it’s time to get to work and see how you can implement those changes.

This is what you need to do before contacting her again.

Remember, you have been doing this break from contacting her for a few days now, so that should give you some time to figure out the issues and what you need to do about them.

But remember: don’t sound desperate or needy and don’t make it obvious that you have been implementing those changes – actions speak louder than words.

Essentially, don’t go overboard with it.

You need to be careful here; don’t come across as clingy or desperate.

This is how most guys mess up their chances at getting their ex back.

Step 3: Be very sure about the fact that you want to get back with her

Okay, perhaps this would have been better off being step number 1, but the thing you need to make sure of before doing all of this is whether or not you really want to be with this girl.

You need to be very sure that you want to get back with her.

If you are not sure, you’ll end up getting back with her just because you are lonely.

If you do that, your relationship will never last because there will be no trust between you and your girlfriend.

So be sure that you want to get back with your girlfriend because you love her and are committed to her.

This will make her feel comfortable around you and will make it easier for her to get back with you.

You see, it’s not just about her, though.

You are about to make all these changes about yourself in order for her to not break up with you.

Now: do you truly see a future with this girl? Think about it: if she doesn’t want to be with you the way you are, is it worth the struggle?

I will be honest here, sometimes it is!

Depending on why she broke up with you, she might have done you a favor by giving you the motivation to change, maybe you weren’t the best boyfriend for her!

But oftentimes, the reasons might have nothing to do with personal growth and are a lot more shallow.

In that case, I think you really need to ponder whether this girl is the one.

You see, if you need to change basic characteristics about yourself because she isn’t super happy about it, there is a problem.

You need to be with someone who loves you for who you are and not who you pretend to be.

If she’s breaking up with you because of superficial reasons, like the fact that she doesn’t like your beard or that she wants a guy with more money, don’t force it on her.

You will end up miserable and resentful towards her if you do that.

But if you are 100% sure that you want to continue this quest of winning her over, keep reading!

Step 4: Send her a long and heartfelt letter

Alright, it’s been a few days of no contact and you feel like you’re very clear on what needs to change in order for the relationship to work?

Have you started implementing the necessary changes, as well?

In that case, send her a long and heartfelt letter about how you feel about the breakup.

In this letter, you need to let her know that you are sorry for what happened and that you want to get back together.

Be very honest in this letter and tell her everything you want to say.

Make sure you are not asking her to get back together, but telling her that you want to get back together because you are actively changing.

This way, you’ll be able to express how you feel about the breakup and how you want to be with her again.

Now: this doesn’t mean you need to send her a physical letter, although, if you feel like she would find that romantic, by all means, go for it!

But this could also be a text message.

The reason you should do it this way is that it gives her time to read your intentions and thoughts over and over, and it will make her think more about your words.

The best part is that she won’t feel forced to reply right away, and you will have time to write exactly what you mean in that letter.

The letter should be sent a few days after you’ve both gone through the no-contact period.

However, there is another way to go about this.

You can also send this “No Communication” text

— “You’re right. It’s best that we don’t talk right now, but I would like to be friends eventually.” —

This one needs to be sent to your ex at the right time for it to be truly effective.

But why I like it is that you’re communicating with them that you don’t really need to talk anymore.

In essence, you’re saying that you don’t really need them to play any role in your life anymore.

Why is this so good?

You induce a “fear of loss” in your ex which will trigger their attraction to you again.

I learned about this text from Brad Browning, who has helped thousands of men and women get their exes back. He goes by the moniker of “the relationship geek”, for good reason.

In this free video, he’ll show you exactly what you can do to make your ex want you again.

No matter what your situation is — or how badly you’ve messed up since the two of you broke up — he’ll give you a number of useful tips that you can apply immediately.

Here’s a link to his free video again. If you really want your ex back, this video will help you do this.

Step 5: Meet up with her to apologize in person

After you’ve sent your heartfelt letter, it’s time to get back in contact with her!

But don’t do it right away – wait for her to respond to your letter, and then continue the conversation.

One thing that I want you to avoid is contacting her too much.

I know, you want to win her over quickly, but she needs to set the pace here.

Once she replies and is willing to do it, meet up with her in person to apologize for whatever you did wrong.

Apologizing in person will let her know that you are serious about the breakup and that you want to get back with her again.

It will also let you tell her everything you want to say in person instead of in a letter where she might not be able to fully understand your feelings.

This allows her to ask you questions and to truly talk about all the issues you are facing right now.

Think about it: a man who is confident enough to apologize in person and who can own up to what he did wrong in the past relationship is really attractive.

Even better when you can present her with all the ways you will actively change in order to make things work.

Step 6: Be there for her when she needs you the most

This is important. Did your girlfriend break up with you? If so, be there for her when she needs you the most.

This will show her that you are committed to her and that you truly love her.

When she is going through a difficult time, you need to be there for her.

You need to comfort her and let her know that everything will be okay. This way, you will be able to win her back even more.

Now: you might think, “she just broke up with me, she doesn’t need me”, but sometimes, that’s exactly when she needs you the most.

You see, I bet that the breakup wasn’t easy for her, either.

This is why during this time, being there for her and not being an extra burden will be enough to win her back.

If you do this properly, she will have no other option than to fall in love with you again.

Don’t just sit around and wait for things to happen – take action!

Here’s what I want you to do: Be nice, be sweet, and be thoughtful towards your girlfriend.

Be a gentleman and treat her like a princess.

It doesn’t matter if she broke up with you or that you aren’t together right now – these are things that can be overcome if both of you are willing to work on it together.

So take action and be there for her. This will also show her that you are not only babbling empty words but are actually serious about her.

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Step 7: Show her how much you’ve changed and how much you care

Okay, now is the most important part of all of this: show her how much you’ve changed and how much you care about her.

For example, if she mentioned that you don’t talk to her enough, then try talking to her even more.

Even if you feel like she doesn’t want to talk to you, she might just need someone to talk to, so let her know that you are there for her whenever she needs you.

If she mentioned that you didn’t respect her enough, then show her that you respect her.

Perhaps she mentioned that you were too possessive, let her know that you’ve relaxed your grip on her and then back it up with actions.

Whatever the reason for the breakup was, just make sure that you show her that you’ve changed.

This is so important because this step will decide whether or not she will give you a second chance.

It’s not enough that you say that you’ve changed, you actually have to show her how much.

This is how she will know that she can trust you again and that she can rely on you.

Step 8: Be patient and don’t initiate anything right away (this will make her want you more)

Okay, I know you want to win her back quickly, but there are a few things you simply can’t rush in this process.

But don’t worry, so far we are only a few days into the breakup, so it hasn’t been a long time.

Now: don’t initiate anything right away.

This will make her want you more. Let her initiate contact with you. And most importantly, let her choose the pace at which you go.

If she doesn’t, that’s okay, just don’t initiate anything.

Let her have her space and time to heal.

Let her have time to think about what happened between the two of you. Let her see that you are patient and that you care about her well-being.

Yeah, I get it, you want this to happen quickly, but when it comes to relationships, certain things just can’t be rushed.

This relates back to what Brad Browning taught me – there are simple ways to get your ex back.

I mentioned Brad earlier, he’s an expert at helping couples work through their issues and rebuild their relationships.

With practical tips to help you get your ex back, his advice could be just what you need to win back your girlfriend.

Click here to watch the free video.

Step 9: Recognize the signs she’s ready to get back together

Did your girlfriend break up with you? If so, recognize the signs that she’s ready to get back together.

• Does she talk more about the breakup?
• Does she want to spend more time with you?
• Does she seem to miss you?
• Does she talk about the future?

If she does any of these, then she might be ready to get back together.

Once you recognize these signs, that’s when you have the green light to keep going and to pursue her even more.

You see, when she is ready to get back together, there is nothing standing in your way of being with her!

Step 10: Be together again!

You made it through the 10 steps and now it’s time to be happy again!

If everything worked out, you are now together and hopefully, for the long run, given that you are working on the issues that caused the breakup in the first place.

Make sure you are careful not to screw up again so that you do not break up again. Be happy and live your life to the fullest!

The most important part now is to determine if you feel happy being with her. If you do feel happy, then you are in a good place to move forward and make sure that the relationship will last for the long run.

If you don’t feel happy, then it’s time to reevaluate your relationship and determine if it’s worth continuing.

Just remember that relationships should make you happy!

And if you ever encounter any issues that make you hesitate whether or not you want to be together? Communicate them!

Chances are, the breakup happened in the first place because of a lack of communication.

Maybe she didn’t communicate her needs early enough or you weren’t actively listening – either way, through communication, almost any issue can be resolved.

All that is left to do is enjoy your time together now and make sure that you feel happy moving forward!

Good luck with your journey!

And if you really want your ex back for good?

You’ll need the help of Brad Browning. I mentioned him earlier, he’s developed some incredible techniques to help rebuild the love and trust between you and your ex.

And the best part?

With his practical advice and tips, you could be in contact with your ex much sooner than you think. Are you ready to take the plunge and fight for the love you once shared together?

If so, check out Brad’s excellent free video.

Here’s the link once again.