Men can be a little bit clueless when it comes to women and their emotions.
It’s not that they don’t care, or don’t want to know. It’s just that men have a lot going on that doesn’t involve emotions, so they never really learn how to feel if they hurt someone.
Here are 15 things that men might think or feel when they hurt a woman.
1) He feels guilty
It all begins with a feeling of guilt.
Even if the guy didn’t mean to hurt you, he still feels bad. He knows he did something wrong, and even though he doesn’t want to feel bad, it’s just a part of being human.
What is guilt?
In simple words, it’s a very powerful emotion, and men feel it just as much as women.
In fact, guilt can be the result of something you do or say that hurts someone. It can also be the result of something you think or don’t think. And it’s all about your actions or inactions.
Yes, it’s true!
When a man feels guilty about hurting a woman, it’s because he caused her pain. He didn’t mean to cause her pain, but he did. Men hate causing pain in women because they care about them so much. Why?
Because men are wired to protect women and help them feel safe and secure in their world. When they cause harm instead of protection, they feel guilt. They also feel bad about themselves, and they don’t like that feeling.
2) He feels anger
When a guy hurts a woman, it doesn’t just feel bad for him. It feels wrong. And it makes him angry.
He doesn’t want to feel angry, but he can’t help it because he’s feeling something very wrong. He also feels upset about himself for hurting you and for not being able to protect you from the hurt he caused you.
He can’t stand the idea of someone hurting you, and he hates that feeling too! He knows that he should have been able to protect you from the pain of his actions, but he wasn’t able to do that because he didn’t know how to feel.
But clearly, it’s not everything.
Want to know more about anger? Here you go:
Imagine that someone you love has just been hurt. You feel hurt, angry, and upset. And you also want to protect them from the pain they’re feeling, which is why you want to get them out of all the pain they’re in.
What if that someone was you? What if that someone was your wife or girlfriend, or even your daughter or son? Wouldn’t it be worse for her to be in pain? Wouldn’t it be worse for her to have anyone else in pain because of what happened to her?
Believe it or not, sometimes that’s exactly how men feel after hurting a woman.
3) He tries to bring out his inner hero
Men want to be heroes. And that’s the fact. They want to protect others and do good for their friends, family, and loved ones. And guess what?
There’s a new theory in the relationship world that’s causing quite a stir – it’s called the hero instinct.
Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept finally explains how men really think and feel in relationships.
And it’s something most women have never even heard of.
According to James Bauer, men don’t actually need a lot to feel content in their relationships. To most people’s surprise, it has nothing to do with sex.
You see, men have innate drivers. These are natural responses that they’re not even aware of. But when a woman comes along and triggers them, it causes a powerful response.
The result is a man who loves harder, commits wholeheartedly, and truly dedicates himself to the relationship.
So, how can you trigger your man’s hero instinct?
Well, you certainly don’t need to act like a damsel in distress or buy him a cape. It’s quite simple, actually.
All you have to do is give your man certain signals that make him feel needed in the relationship. These allow him to step to the plate and feel fulfilled in his role as your partner.
And these signals are revealed in this simple and genuine video by James Bauer.
The truth is, once you understand how the hero instinct works, there’s no telling what heights your relationship can reach.
So if you want to give your man what he truly wants from you, make sure to check out James Bauer’s excellent video. In it, he reveals the exact texts and phrases you can use straight away.
4) He feels like he should apologize
“Sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you.”
Does this sound like him?
Admit it. How many times has he said this phrase to you after doing something wrong or hurting you?
The simple truth is, guys always want to apologize.
When they hurt a woman, it feels wrong, and they don’t like the feeling of being wrong. But they also don’t like the idea of causing pain for someone else, so there’s a conflict in their head.
It makes them feel confused and anxious, which is why they want to apologize to you for what happened. They want to make it right and take responsibility for that part of their life that was wrong and hurtful. They want to apologize because that’s what a good guy does!
But you know what?
A real man should do that! He’s supposed to be a hero! It’s his job! He wants you to know that he’s sorry and that he’ll never hurt you again.
And that’s a good thing! But it doesn’t mean he should apologize for something he didn’t do!
5) He feels confused
Men don’t like feeling confused. They don’t like the way this makes them feel.
Instead, they want to know what’s going on. They want to know why you’re acting a certain way and how they can fix it.
But if they feel confused, why did they hurt you in the first place?
They want to know why you’re acting a certain way when they should have known better. So they feel bad about the way they made you feel.
“I don’t know why I did that.”
Did he already tell you this phase after hurting you? Let’s be honest.
This is not the first time he’s said this.
Even if you don’t remember, you know it happened. You know that he told you he had done something wrong and that he felt bad about it. So why didn’t you believe him?
You believed him because it felt good to do so. You wanted to believe him because it made you feel better about yourself and about how badly he hurt you.
But the truth is, he wasn’t telling you the truth. He was making it up because he felt bad about what he did and how badly he hurt you.
6) He feels he’s right and justifies his actions
He believes he’s justified in his actions and is convinced that he’s right.
He has no idea what he did was wrong, feels bad about it, and wants to make things right.
He feels like you’re the one who’s wrong because you’re acting a certain way and making him feel bad.
His actions are justified because they were to make things better for him and you.
But the truth is, his actions were wrong because:
- He didn’t think about how it would affect you
- He didn’t care about how it would affect you.
- They feel like their feelings have been hurt
They feel like their feelings have been hurt by your reaction to their actions. They’re hurt about how it made you feel.
They feel bad about how it made you feel. But they don’t think that’s the reason. They don’t believe that’s the reason you’re reacting to them in a certain way.
In their minds, your reactions are all wrong, and they’re right that you have been wronged by their actions. They think they’ve been wronged because they’ve been hurt by your reaction to their actions and how badly they hurt you.
I mentioned this fascinating concept earlier: the hero instinct. When a man’s inner hero is triggered, he’s more likely to to hurt the woman he loves.
Just by knowing the right things to say to him, you’ll open a part of him that no woman has ever reached before.
And the easiest way to do so is by watching this free video by James Bauer. In it, he’ll reveal simple phrases and texts you can use to make your man truly yours.
7) He feels regretful
When a man hurts a woman, it’s not just because he didn’t want to. He also feels regret because he knows he should have done it differently. He knows he could have done better.
He feels bad because he messed up, but not because he wanted to hurt you. It’s because he knows that he should have done things differently and that it was his fault for doing what he did in the first place.
He also feels bad because of what this is doing to you and your life.
- How much pain are you going through?
- How much pain are you causing yourself by staying with him?
- How much pain are you causing your friends and family by staying with him?
I’m not sure when this started happening, but there’s been a shift in the way guys feel after they hurt a woman.
It used to be that they felt regretful and sad. They felt awful about what happened and wanted to fix it, change it, do whatever it takes to make things better. But now men are starting to feel remorse for hurting you.
What’s going on here?
Well, because of how wrong it feels for them to have done something hurtful or wrong, they’re actually feeling bad about what happened. They’re feeling guilty about how it made you feel and how badly they made you feel. They’re feeling remorseful about their actions and how they affected your life.
8) He’s frightened
Want to know a secret?
Even though men are supposed to protect women, men can’t always protect them from all of the hurt they cause.
Men feel fear when they hurt a woman because they know that it hurts women to have someone on their side who doesn’t really care about them.
Not only do men feel afraid for the woman, but they also feel afraid for themselves. They know that their actions and inactions have caused pain for you, and this is something that scares them.
He feels bad about how you feel and how badly he hurt you.
He’s afraid that if he makes things better, you’ll reject him. He’s afraid that if he shows his remorse, you’ll reject him. He’s afraid that if he shows his true feelings, you’ll reject him.
He’s afraid of rejection and doesn’t want to be rejected by you. So he doesn’t want to make things right because it would mean rejection by you.
9) He feels ashamed
The simple truth is men are not ashamed when they’re wrong. Men are ashamed when they feel that others are right about them.
However, when a man feels that he’s been wronged, he feels ashamed. He feels ashamed of himself because he knows that his actions have caused harm to the woman who loves him.
Because a man loves you, he feels bad about how badly he’s hurt you and about how much pain you’re in. He doesn’t want to hurt you again and doesn’t know how to make things better.
He doesn’t feel as though he can fix what’s already been broken for both of you, so he doesn’t try to fix it. He just gives up on trying to fix it because it just makes him feel worse about himself.
Still, he doesn’t want to admit that he’s wrong, so he denies it. He pretends that nothing bad has happened, but he knows deep down inside that he’s been a terrible person.
He feels ashamed of himself because you’re hurt and because he knows his actions have caused you harm. He feels ashamed of himself because you’re hurt and because he knows his actions have caused you harm. He feels ashamed of himself because he knows how much pain you’re in, and how badly he’s failed to protect you from it.
He wants to make things right and is willing to do anything to fix what’s broken between the two of you, but there’s no way for him to fix it. He can’t make it better, so he just gives up on trying to fix it.
10) He feels disappointed by himself
A man feels disappointed in himself when he realizes that his actions have caused so much pain to the woman he loves. He feels disappointed in himself because he’s done something terribly wrong and because he’s hurt the woman who loves him.
As a result, he wants to make things right but doesn’t know how to fix what’s already been broken between the two of you. He can’t fix it and feels powerless over it, so he gives up trying to fix it.
He doesn’t want to lose you as a friend, so he tries and tries, but can’t make things any better for the two of you. He just gives up trying to make things better.
11) He feels remorse
Have you ever thought about what it would feel like for him if he knew that his actions had caused you harm?
Imagine that you’ve been hurt by a man, but have no way of knowing how it happened. You don’t know what happened between the two of you and don’t understand why he did what he did.
Do you think he would feel remorse?
Would he feel guilty?
Would he want to make things right?
Think about it another way.
If he truly cares about you, chances are high that he will feel something like this: “I don’t like hurting people” or “I hate hurting people I love.”
In either case, he would feel remorse for hurting you.
As a result, he will want to fix what’s already been broken between the two of you, because he’s not in control of it. He can’t make it better, so he just gives up trying to fix it.
12) He feels like a failure
Do you think that he would feel like a failure if he knew that his actions had caused harm to the woman he loves?
He would feel like a failure because your pain was his fault and because he’s been hurt by him. He might even be afraid that she might leave him if she knew what kind of person he really is.
This would cause him to feel like a failure and want to make things better between you two. He will try and try, but he just can’t fix what’s already been broken between the two of you. He doesn’t know how to make it better, so he gives up trying to fix it.
Now I want you to stop and think about it.
Have you noticed him feeling like a failure on a regular basis?
Maybe he feels like a failure
- When he can’t fix what’s already been broken between you two.
- When he is trying to get you to forgive him.
- Whenever you get angry at him or whenever something bad happens in your life.
Whatever his problem is, it’s really important that you pay attention to how he feels as a result of his actions and how that affects his behavior. If it’s negative, then he is likely to give up trying to fix what’s already been broken between the two of you.
Remember: the more negative his feelings are, the more likely it is that you will both lose each other if things don’t change soon.
13) He feels weak and powerless
Do you think that he would feel weak and powerless if he knew that his actions had caused harm to the woman he loved?
He would feel weak and powerless because his actions have already caused you pain. He can’t fix what’s already been broken between the two of you, so he just gives up trying to fix it.
In other words, he feels like a failure, and he feels weak and powerless because he is a failure, and that’s what causes him to feel weak and powerless.
Now you may wonder why he would feel weak and powerless when he hurt you.
Because the more negative his feelings are about his actions, the less able he is to fix what’s already been broken between you two. He doesn’t know how to make it better, so he gives up trying to fix it.
14) He feels trapped
Do you think that he would feel trapped if he knew that his actions had caused harm to the woman he loved?
He would feel trapped because you are still in pain and because if he can’t fix what’s already been broken between the two of you, then how can he be with you? He doesn’t know how to make things better, so he gives up trying to fix them.
Sometimes people get stuck in a situation where they don’t know what they should do.
This is a situation where both parties are stuck and are unable to move forward.
He doesn’t know how to make things better, so he gives up trying to fix them.
15) He’s mad at himself for hurting you
If a man hurts a woman, he knows that it’s wrong and that it’s not what he
should be doing, but he does it anyway.
People don’t always give up on fixing what’s already been broken between the two of them when they hurt each other, but rather they get stuck in a situation where they are unable to move forward.
When people are stuck in a situation where they feel unable to move forward, it is often because of their own limitations.
This has been an emotionally charged issue that affects the relationship between two individuals and has been going on for some time now. The problem might have started out small but, over time, became more significant as the hurt feelings continued to build up.
So, don’t forget that it’s important for both parties involved in this type of scenario not only to understand themselves but also each other so that they may find a way back to moving towards one another again.
All in all, guys don’t know how to handle situations like this, so they default to what they know: apologizing. It’s not because they think it will make things better; it’s just that apologizing is what guys do when something goes wrong.
However, sometimes they prefer to feel more confident in themselves instead of apologizing.
I touched on the hero instinct earlier – it’s the perfect remedy for the situation you’re facing.
Because once a man’s hero instinct is triggered, he’ll only have eyes for you. You’ll reach a part of him that no woman has ever managed to reach before.
And in return, he’ll be compelled to commit to you and love you like he’s never loved another woman.
So if you’re ready to take that plunge and reach new heights in your relationship, make sure to check out relationship expert James Bauer’s invaluable advice.
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