So you’ve met someone who is helping you to burn up past karma. Now, you might be wondering if this special person is your soulmate?
It’s certainly possible to direct your karmic relationship into a soulmate connection.
I’m going to give you the top 12 easiest ways to turn your karma relationship into a soulmate relationship. Let’s jump in!
1) Be honest and upfront about what you need from the relationship
The more we want something, the more our karma accumulates. The more we desire our partner to give us a certain outcome, the more our karma accumulates.
So, it’s important to know exactly what you need in the relationship.
If you are trying to practice a conscious relationship, you have to be completely honest about your wants so that you can approach this relationship together and experience the present moment more fully.
Communication is a skill that you can work on improving in your relationships.
Communication skills are not something that you are born with and it takes practice to get better at them. When you invest in learning how to communicate better with someone, you build trust.
Open, honest, and constructive communication is very important in a soulmate relationship, but it’s much more important in a karma relationship because someone else is helping you to burn up past karma.
You have to be truthful in your approach or else you will acquire more karmic debt with lies and deceit.
2) Treat your karmic partner with love and respect
Even if the relationship is challenging, it’s important to respect all of the hard work that your karmic partner is doing to help you. They are going to help you to see aspects of yourself and your life that you are probably not usually looking at.
You might have met someone who you think is a soulmate, but the universe might be asking you to do more work with them for the moment. So you must handle this first.
The universe is asking us to keep our relationship with this person so that we might continue to work more directly on ourselves.
Your karmic relationship will be full of lessons, trials, and mistakes. So, it is important to treat your partner with a great amount of love, patience, kindness, and respect.
3) Keep your ego in check and practice forgiveness sooner rather than later in the relationship
Your ego is your biggest obstacle to a soulmate relationship because it can trick you into thinking that you are more special than your partner.
If you want to break free from your ego, mindfulness practices on forgiveness and opening your sense of compassion are going to be the most effective.
Your karmic relationship is the perfect place to do this because this is the space where we tend to be our most vulnerable.
In general, it’s going to be much easier to find peace in your life if that’s what you’re working towards with your partner.
So, if you’re seeking a soulmate relationship, you have to practice forgiveness sooner rather than later in the relationship.
4) Don’t expect your karmic partner to give you what you want or need from them
You can’t expect your karmic partner to fulfill all of your needs and wants. It’s a total give-and-take.
You might think that you have found the perfect match, but if you don’t nurture that connection you’ll burn up past karma but have nothing to show for it.
It’s important to find someone you can work with and get along with because that’s the only way you’ll transform your relationship into a soulmate relationship.
You need to put positive karma into your exchange.
Love wholeheartedly, show your partner affection and let them know how you feel, but don’t expect anything in return. This is one sure way not to build up more karmic debt with them.
5) Remember that you can only control your karma, not your partner’s
As much as you might want your partner to change for you, it’s also important that you spend time working on yourself.
When we neglect our development, we can repeat the same patterns with different partners.
So, even if you are very attracted to your partner and they seem like they don’t have a lot of karma up in their space, you must remember that you can only control your karma, not your partner’s.
The Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh reminds us how we can use our pain, strong emotions, and troubling perceptions as lessons in mindfulness. He reminds us that we can learn how to feel our difficult feelings without avoiding them.
In his words, “We can embrace them the way a parent embraces a child and say to them, ‘Darling, I am here for you; I have come back; I’m going to take care of you.’ In this manner, we can come to control our response to our emotions.
The more you can focus on being a loving, caring begin, the more your partner will open up to your love and compassion. In this way you can set the path to connect more deeply on the spiritual level.
6) Work on being more fearless together
If you’re fearful around your partner, you might be scared of who they are going to become when you start to work on their karma, or you might be afraid that they won’t stick with the relationship. You must work on being fearless together.
Working out your past karma isn’t easy. So you need to step into it with courage, strength, and curiosity.
To do this, you need to be present with each other and work on being more aware of the present moment.
By exercising your sense of mindfulness and working together to be in the present moment, you can help each other to become fearless around difficult situations.
7) Work on your self-worth together
Self-worth is a big issue for those of us who are attracted to karma relationships. It can be really hard to see our partner as more of a soulmate when we are so hopelessly attracted to them.
We may even be attracted to them because we believe that we need to work on our sense of self-worth with them.
Our self-worth can become so low in these relationships that we start to feel like we don’t deserve a soulmate relationship.
Even though you may feel attracted to your partner, the universe may be asking you to do some work on your self-worth so that you can work on paying off karma with each other.
8) Remember that karma lovers don’t always stay together
Once you’ve started working on your karma, it doesn’t mean that you will remain committed to each other forever.
The Universe wants us to accomplish something and then leave.
Sometimes we find that the best way to accomplish something is by letting go of our fixed ideas about how it’s supposed to be done. Then we can truly allow something to be as it really is.
However, you mustn’t be attached to anyone or anything so that you can continue to live a happy and purposeful life.
So it might be that you have to let go of your partner completely for the karmic relationship to transform into a soulmate relationship. Space allows room for growth. By accepting that we don’t need to control, we become more aligned with the true nature of reality. We can’t control life.
There is a power in letting go of what we want so that we make space for what we truly need.
9) Avoid negativity in all of its forms
Negativity is something that can put a dampener on your karma relationship and stop it from growing.
You can’t expect your partner to build you up if you’re constantly putting them down and verbally bringing them down.
Even if they do things that seem wrong in your eyes, is there another way you can think about it?
Can you reframe the situation in a positive light?
If your karma relationship is struggling, then it’s time to take a step back and reflect on why that may be. If you’re too negative together, then this is going to have a lasting effect on the relationship. We have to show kindness and affection to one another when we are in our difficult moments. Love heals.
So whether it’s how you speak with others, or if you want to stop negative self speak, it’s important to avoid negative dialogues in all expressions.
10) Be generous and supportive towards each other
Karma tends to reward those who support us and help us grow.
This idea is not only about the world we live in but it can also apply to the world within us.
It is important to be generous and supportive towards each other in all aspects of life, even if you have to take a step back in some areas to do it.
Even if you need to end your karma relationship, it’s important to support and be generous towards your partner. Sending praise, making someone feel like a hero, and showing respect are all things that we desperately want in relationships.
Remember that this special person crossed your path for a reason. If you want to burn up your karmic debt, it’s going to take a lot of work and you’re going to need all the help that you can get.
11) Let your karmic partner know that you love them for who they really are
Your karmic partner doesn’t have to change their entire personality to be your soulmate.
It’s important to see your partner for who they are and accept them for who they are.
When you can be open and honest with someone, you can start to honestly them affection and let them know how you feel. We all have aspects of ourselves that we consider weaknesses or shortcomings and being about to share these with our karmic partners is important for growth.
Remember it’s your fate to meet this person. They are here to help you grow and heal. So when you see their darker side, try to also be kind, generous, loving, and accepting of your partner as they are.
12) Don’t be too dependent on each other
The karma relationship is a pretty heavy one and one of you could end up becoming overly dependent on the other. There are a few key ways to tell if you are being codependent or interdependent.
Overall, you need to make sure that this doesn’t happen because you must have a strong sense of self-worth.
Sometimes, this can be a problem if the karma relationship is breaking down because the partner who feels more dependent on the other will have a hard time separating from them.
So make sure to develop as an independent person so that you can become a better karma lover for yourself. This sense of self-love and assurance will also help you to be a stronger partner for a soulmate connection.
“When you’re in love, you’re capable of learning everything and knowing things you had never dared even to think, because love is the key to understanding all the mysteries.” (- Paulo Coelho, Brida )
Keep in mind that the karma relationship is a really big transformation in anybody’s life.
Karmic lovers are going to be drawn to one another because they feel a certain way about their partners. The karmic relationship is an emotional roller coaster, one that you’ll both need to take together.
Once you start to lose your sense of attachment, it will be a lot easier for you to leave unwanted relationships behind.
Then you can build your soulmate connection. So let go of the past. Work on your karmic debt.
Also, let go of your expectations towards your soulmate and you will open yourself up to a new and exciting future!
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