When your ex-boyfriend starts dating someone new, you would assume that he has moved on from you, right?
However, sometimes, things aren’t that black and white at all.
Instead, it could very well happen that he still loves you while being with someone else.
If that is the case, I’m sure you’d wanna know (I did, too, when I was in your situation), and so here are some signs to look out for that he still loves you:
1) He still cares about your opinion
When your ex still cares about your opinion, it’s a clear sign that he hasn’t really moved on from you yet.
This is especially true if you two broke up on good terms.
In this case, even though he might be with someone else, he’ll still be holding on to the idea that you still have some sort of power over him.
In addition to caring about your opinion, he might also worry about what you’re going to say to others.
This is a clear sign that he’s still attached to you.
You see, when you move on from an ex, you usually either cut them out of your life or if they are still in it, it’s a very passive role.
However, when an ex wants to know your opinion on their life and what they are doing, it shows that he clearly still has feelings for you and that he is still attached to you.
In that case, it’s up to you to decide whether you want to entertain that, or whether you want to set a boundary of “You have a girlfriend now, maybe it would be better to ask for her opinion in the future”.
2) He’s constantly trying to prove to you that he’s happy
If your ex is constantly trying to prove to you that he’s happy, he might be doing so in an attempt to reassure you that you two no longer need each other.
His goal might be to make you feel less attached to him, so you’ll be able to move on with your life.
In this case, he’ll probably be bragging about his new relationship, the new person he’s dating, and how much he loves his new life.
This can definitely be annoying and hurtful, but it can also be a sign that he’s still attached to you.
You see, nobody who has truly moved on from their ex cares about proving to them how happy they are.
If he didn’t care about you, he’d simply live his life without giving you a second thought.
The mere fact that he is trying to prove his happiness to you says a lot about his feelings.
You could ask him whether he has any regrets because you’d like to know if he still loves you.
3) He never really mentions his girlfriend to you
If your ex never really mentions his girlfriend to you, it could mean that he doesn’t really feel like he’s dating the right person.
Instead, he might be trying to pretend that he’s single because he still has feelings for you.
You could be the only woman he truly cares about in his life at this point, and he might not want to hurt you by telling you the truth that he is seeing someone.
If that’s the case, he might still feel very strongly connected to you.
In this situation, you need to be careful because your ex might be playing with fire.
He might be toying with the idea of breaking up with his new girlfriend, but he doesn’t want to hurt his new love interest.
The thing is, there are many reasons why he might not mention her. Of course, it could be because he doesn’t want to rub it in for you, which is a very kind and caring move, but it could also be because he still cares about you and he simply doesn’t know how to tell you.
If your ex is still in love with you, he might not want to talk about his new relationship because he doesn’t want to blow his chances at potentially getting back together with you.
If you two dated for a really long time and have a lot of history together, he might be struggling to let go of you.
In this case, he might have started dating someone new, but he hasn’t fallen in love with that person yet.
If your ex never mentions his girlfriend, but he still visits you, texts you, and wants to spend time with you, you’ll probably have to confront him.
Ask him if he’s dating someone new and has feelings for his new girlfriend.
You need to be stern about this, otherwise, you never know where you stand with him.
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4) He still follows you on social media
Okay, to be fair, this isn’t an immediate sign that he still loves you, but it does show that he still cares about you.
When your ex still follows you on social media even though he has a new girlfriend, it shows that he hasn’t fully let you go and is still interested in what you’re up to.
He might have even unfollowed you, but he’s still checking your social media from time to time.
You may notice him watching your stories or accidentally liking a photo.
These are clear signs he’s not over you!
5) He regularly checks in with you
If your ex regularly checks in with you and wants to know how you’re doing, he might still care about you.
He might be hoping that you’ll uplift your spirits and fall back in love with him.
If you two broke up on bad terms, he might be trying to get back together with you while being with someone else.
In this situation, you need to be careful because someone else’s feelings are involved, too.
Now: if an ex checks in with you regularly, they definitely still have feelings for you, but it’s up to you to figure out if the feelings are strong enough to want to be with you again, or just a “best friend” type of feeling.
6) He is super attentive to your needs and desires
If your ex is super attentive to your needs and desires, it could mean that he misses the good old days.
He could be trying to give you what he thinks you want so you’ll fall back in love with him.
In this situation, your ex might be trying to make up for the fact that he broke up with you while being with someone else.
If you two broke up on bad terms, he might be hoping that you’ll forgive him and give him another shot.
You see, if your ex is being super attentive to your needs and desires, but he never mentions his girlfriend, you need to confront him.
Ask him whether he has any regrets because you’d like to know if he still loves you.
7) He does little things for you without being asked or prompted to do so
If your ex does little things for you without being asked or prompted to do so, he might be hoping that you’ll fall back in love with him.
He could be trying to win you over and make you feel like you’re still a part of his life.
In this situation, you might be able to get him to reveal his true feelings for you by telling him that you appreciate his efforts, but you are confused by his relationship status.
This might lead him to reveal how he really feels about you, so you can finally put this to rest.
You see, nobody does little things for their ex without having some sort of ulterior motive, like still being in love.
8) He still spends time with you (without the new person)
If your ex still spends time with you (without the new person), he might be hoping that you’ll give him another shot.
He could be hoping that spending time with you will make you fall back in love with him.
The thing is, spending time with an ex is always tricky when you’re in a new relationship, but choosing to do so without your girlfriend present is even trickier.
This is because he is trying to make you feel special and important, while also trying to keep you away from his new girlfriend.
So what can you do?
Well, you need to decide what you want to do in that situation.
Do you want to meet him and risk hurting his new girlfriend, or do you want to set a clear boundary and stay away from your ex?
Either way, wanting to meet up with you alone is a sign that he loves you.
9) He’s jealous when he sees you with other guys
If your ex gets jealous when he sees you with other guys, it could mean that he still has strong feelings for you.
He might think that you’re moving on too quickly without giving him a second thought.
In this situation, he might be trying to slow you down and make you miss him.
I know it’s ironic, given that he has moved on already, but this double standard is not a rare occasion, many guys are like that.
With time, his jealousy will probably subside and he’ll finally let you go.
If your ex gets jealous when he sees you with other guys, he still cares about you, probably more than he’d like to admit.
10) He constantly talks about the good times you had together
If your ex constantly talks about the good times you had together, he might be trying to make you miss him.
He might be hoping that you’ll fall back in love with him, so you two can get back together.
You see, talking about the good old days and being nostalgic is a way to make you feel warm and fuzzy, which is a great way to get you to fall in love with him all over again.
However, it’s important to remember that he might have the same intentions as you.
He might be hoping that talking about the good old days will make him miss you and want to get back together.
But he might also just be reminiscing the nice times even though he’s more than happy with his new partner.
Just remember that it’s important not to confuse nostalgia with true love because they’re not the same thing at all.
What can you do?
Even though you would assume a guy has moved on when he dates someone new, that’s not always the case.
If you suspect that he might still have feelings for you, you need to either clear the air or set boundaries.
If you don’t do anything, you’ll probably end up getting hurt and that’s not what you want.
My number one tip is to not read too much into his actions at first, because some guys just have a hard time letting go, even though they have no intention of getting back together!
Whatever you do, stay true to yourself and your values, and no matter what happens you will be okay.
This is a confusing situation, but you are strong!
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