Dating someone you have nothing in common with can be a lot of fun.
However, it’s important to be aware of the risks before you date them.
Here are 14 things you need to know before dating someone who is not as compatible as you’d like.
We’ll look at both good and bad!
Let’s dive in!
1) You don’t have much to talk about.
When you date someone who doesn’t have much in common with you, there aren’t many topics of conversation that you can both enjoy.
Even if the person has many interests and hobbies, they may not share them with you. Dating someone who is not as compatible as you are can be a lonely experience.
You may feel like an outsider and it may cause your relationship to suffer. You don’t have as much of a connection as you would like, so it’s important that you try to find ways to make things work.
2) You don’t feel comfortable talking about personal things with them.
Dating someone who isn’t as compatible as you is going to make your relationship more difficult.
You may not feel comfortable talking about personal things with them.
You may feel like you’re intruding on their personal space, especially if they don’t seem interested in telling you about their life.
3) You don’t have many shared interests and hobbies.
Dating someone who has little in common with you can be hard because there won’t be many topics of conversation that are interesting to both of you.
Even if the person has many interests and hobbies, they may not share them with you. If they do, they may not share them with the same enthusiasm as you would like.
This makes it hard for both of you to find things that bring us together.
You might also worry that your man might not stick around because of the lack of commonality between you two.
But, there is a silver lining!
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These phrases reach men on a deep primal level – most women don’t know about this, which is why they struggle to keep a man’s infatuation.
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4) You will learn new things.
One big benefit of dating someone with who you don’t have much in common is the fact that you’ll learn a host of new exciting things.
It’s likely that you will learn a lot about different aspects of each other’s lives, and you’ll come to know something new about each other.
For example, you may find that you both love the same things, or that one of you is into a sport that you’ve never heard of.
You will learn new things about each other and get to know them better.
5) You will have different expectations of the relationship.
If you are dating someone who doesn’t have much in common with you, it’s important that you both discuss and agree on some things.
You will have different expectations of the relationship and it can cause conflict.
It may be hard to communicate your needs because they don’t match up with what they want from the relationship.
This can lead to arguments and resentment between the two of you.
This is a good time to talk about your expectations for the relationship. Try to find some common ground and agree on what is important to both of you.
But maybe you need to take a different approach to fix your relationship.
Maybe you need to work on the most important one you’ll ever have before you can fix the others:
The one you have with yourself.
I learned about this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. In his excellent, free video on cultivating healthy relationships, Rudá reveals where most of us go wrong in our relationships.
So why should you listen to Rudá’s life-changing advice?
Well, he uses techniques derived from ancient shamanic teachings, but he puts his own modern-day twist on them. He may be a shaman, but he’s made the same mistakes in love that you and I have.
And now he’s found the solution, he wants to share it with you.
So if you’re done with feeling less than worthy, if you’re tired of toxic relationships, and you want to cultivate real, genuine love, check out his simple yet effective advice.
6) Culture clashes
If you are dating someone who is not from your culture, it can cause problems with communication and misunderstandings between the two of you.
You will have different expectations of the relationship, which can make it hard for both of you to communicate clearly about what is important to both of you.
If one person wants something that the other person thinks they shouldn’t have, this can cause conflict.
However, there are always ways and means to get on the same page. You just need to keep on trying.
7) You’ll tend to hang out in groups and not alone
To avoid those awkward silences that occur between you two, you’ll both find it easier to be around other people when you’re together.
As a consequence, you will find that you favor group dates, over spending time alone with your partner.
This is not necessarily a bad thing however, it is important that you do spend some time alone together because it is important to build a connection and intimacy between the two of you.
8) Opposites attract
On the flip side, it’s not all doom and gloom, in fact, there are loads of couples who are polar opposites but still have deeply fulfilling relationships.
If you are dating someone who is the complete opposite of you, it can be an exciting and rewarding experience.
You will likely find that you have a lot in common, and both of you will be attracted to each other.
This can help bring the two of you together because being attracted to someone is very important for a relationship.
9) You might find yourself at loggerheads with each other
Dating someone who is very different from you can be a challenging experience.
You will likely find that you have different opinions and ideas about many things, and this can cause conflict.
It is important that both of you can talk to each other about your differences so that they don’t become too big an issue in your relationship.
If they are too big an issue, it becomes difficult to communicate with each other, which can cause problems in the relationship.
10) Physical attraction dominates the relationship
Dating someone who is different from you can be an exciting and rewarding experience.
You will likely find that you have nothing in common, yet both of you will be attracted to each other.
This can help bring the two of you together because being attracted to someone is very important for a relationship.
One thing to keep in mind is that it’s not uncommon for people to experience feelings of infatuation or lust towards someone they have just met, so be sure to take time to think things over before you dive in headfirst.
11) You disagree on lots of things and might struggle to communicate
When two people are in a relationship, there are bound to be disagreements between them.
Conflict is a natural part of any relationship, but it’s important that you handle it well. If there’s no communication between the two of you, then conflict could lead to resentment and arguments.
You need to make sure that you are able to talk about any disagreements that you have without being aggressive or angry.
One of the best ways to do this is to sit down and talk about your problems and let each other know how you feel about them.
If you’re able to talk about something in a calm way and listen to what your partner has to say, then it’s much more likely that they will listen to you.
12) You will help each other grow
Dating someone who is different from you can be an eye-opening experience for both of you.
It can help to bring out some of your best qualities, and it can also help to bring out some of your worst qualities.
If there’s no conflict between the two of you, then it’s likely that your relationship will be stronger as a result.
A relationship between two people who don’t have much in common won’t be able to grow as fast as a relationship between two people who have a lot in common.
13) You won’t get bored as quickly
If you’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t similar to you, then it’s likely that the two of you will have different interests.
This means that there is something new and exciting for both of you every day.
This means that the two of you will be able to stay interested in one another, and this will help to keep the two of you from getting bored with each other.
14) You’ll feel less pressured
If there’s no conflict between the two of you, then it’s likely that you will have less pressure to make things work.
You don’t have to worry about causing the other person to lose interest in you, or about making things better.
You can just enjoy each other’s company and enjoy your time together.
How do we make it work if we don’t have much in common?
I’ve been here. I’ve dated many people who had nothing in common with me.
Sure, it didn’t always work out but there are a few tips you can use to breach the gaps.
Remember why you’re together
Sure, you might be at odds with each other but think back and take the time to remember what brought the two of you together?
If you can recall a moment when the two of you connected, then it will be easier to get through the tough times.
Consider the meaningful things that you do have in common
Sure, you might not like the same movies, music, or sports.
These are external factors. But what about the deeper, more meaningful things that bind you together like your love of family, your faith, the way that you look at life.
These things might be more difficult to bring up but if you can connect on a deeper level, then the two of you are already on the road to making it work.
Try new things together
If you don’t have much in common, why not take the time to discover new things that you might enjoy.
Take a road trip, try new restaurants, or look into outdoor activities that you might like.
By doing new things together and discovering new ways to enjoy the other person, you’ll find that you’ll be able to make the most of one another’s differences.
Embark on a journey together
No, I’m not talking about a vacation or a road trip.
What I mean here is finding something that you both want to accomplish.
Things like getting in shape, eating healthier or, quitting smoking.
If you both want to change, then it’s likely that you’ll be able to make it work.
It’s also a great way to show that you’re committed to making things work.
Be open to compromise
Sure, you don’t have to agree with each other on everything but you can still be a great couple if you’re willing to compromise.
This is especially important if you’ve found that there are certain things that are really important to one of you but not the other.
For example, maybe one of you wants to spend more time with family while the other doesn’t care for their family at all.
Maybe one wants a big house while the other prefers a small apartment. Maybe one has an expensive taste in cars while the other likes used vehicles.
You might think it’s impossible for things to work out but it’s not if both people are willing to compromise.
The two of you can make the most of your differences while still enjoying the things that you have in common.
Take it slow
Don’t rush out and buy your wedding dress just yet.
If you’re in a relationship with someone that’s not right for you, then taking it slow is a great way to save yourself.
The two of you can work on understanding each other and making it work.
If things don’t work out, then at least there’s no one else who’ll be hurt by your decision.
The two of you might have different interests and different personalities but that doesn’t mean that you can’t make it work.
In fact, if you’re willing to compromise and be open, then you might find that the two of you have a lot in common after all.
Can a relationship coach help you too?
If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.
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