Men won’t always be upfront about their feelings. Sometimes they’re too proud to admit it, other times they might not even be fully conscious that they feel certain ways about you.
But the body can betray the person in more ways than one. Even if he’s not eager to show you his true feelings, his body language can speak volumes about how he truly feels for you.
Body language is revealing because it’s the subconscious trying to communicate with you.
The next time you’re stuck trying to figure out whether a guy likes you or not, just look at these subconscious signs that could reveal if he has feelings for you after all.
1) You Can See His Hands
You don’t just see his hands; it’s like he’s openly inviting you to notice them. People often hide their hands in their pockets or just away from eyesight as a sign of anxiety.
You take them off the table and fidget under the table when you’re not particularly sure about
He might even have it close towards you because he unconsciously wants to touch you and his body is letting you know on his behalf.
2) His Body Is Open Around You
Body language isn’t always active – he doesn’t have to be actively touching your shoulder to show fondness. Sometimes the most subtle signs speak the loudest.
A guy who likes you enjoys being around you. His body language will be open and relaxed. For instance, sitting across you with arms uncrossed or with an unclenched jaw are signs that he’s comfortable around you.
If he shifts an ear closer every time you talk, it’s because he wants to hear more of your voice and your thoughts.
Body language mimics how we internally feel.
If he’s interested in getting to know you and is enjoying the conversation, it’s likely his body language would follow suit.
Instead of being closed off and hugging his body, his posture will likely be open and spread out.
3) His Hands Are Clammy
This is less body language and more physical response. If a guy likes you, you can expect that his hands will be a little sweaty.
Oftentimes we interpret sweaty hands as a sign of anxiety and nervousness, and while those are true, it could also just be in anticipation.
Clammy hands are an invulnerable response. If you find that his hands are just a little too damp, you can assume that he’s probably interested.
He has a desire not to mess it up and make sure everything goes smoothly and that might be making him a little nervous.
4) He Fumbles With His Necktie
Another sign of nervousness or wanting to make sure everything goes well is fidgeting.
If you’re talking to a guy and notice a lot of self-grooming like fixing the cuffs of his sleeve or readjusting his tie, it’s a good sign that he’s trying to redirect his nervousness elsewhere.
Playing with something helps distract him from thoughts of you, or overwhelming thoughts of doing something wrong and potentially messing it up.
There’s also the additional psychology about the “visible dip area” – psychologists suggest that some people turn to protecting their neck when they feel nervous.
It doesn’t have to be just nervousness. A confident guy that constantly fixes his tie might be doing so to appear more put together for you.
He’s self-conscious about his appearance and wants to make sure everything is straightened out while you’re looking at him.
5) He’s Fidgeting With The Buttons On His Jacket
This is pretty similar to the point above but there’s an extra layer to the interaction in different contexts.
For instance, if the conversation is getting a little hot and bothered, playing with the buttons on his jacket might be his unconscious way of telling you he wants to take his clothes off.
Some guys might even remove their jacket completely, which could be a sign of further comfort and interest.
He feels more at ease talking to you and now wants to “shed” another layer between you and him.
In other cases, this might be because he just wants to show off some of his muscles and make you drool a little.
This might be his way of “peacocking”, of making sure that you know exactly what you’re in for.
6) His Body is Erect
And no, not in that way. This is another way to “peacock” himself towards you.
If a guy is interested in you, he might stand a little straighter and pull his muscles back to show off his body to you.
Think about the troops standing in attention – he’s pretty alert and he’s unconsciously trying to show you more of his body.
7) He’ll Let You Know He’s Checking You Out
Some psychologists refer to something called visual voyaging, where a guy takes his time to look at your body, savoring every sight.
You might catch him moving his gaze carefully from your face to your neck, down to the rest of your body, seemingly without care.
What is his reaction to getting caught? If he’s particularly flirty, he’ll do it openly as if he wants you to catch him.
He wants you to know that he’s interested in you in more ways than one. He wants to get caught and might be even challenging you, wondering what you’re going to do about it.
8) His Eyebrow Is Slightly Raised
Raised eyebrows often mean inquisitiveness. If his eyebrows are slightly raised while talking to you, it’s likely that he finds you intriguing.
He’s interested in what you have to say and is even eager to hear your responses in return.
His eyebrows are raised because he finds you fascinating. You might also notice that his eyes are very focused on you, almost burning a hole through your head.
To most psychologists, raised eyebrows are a good sign.
He’s interested and keen about you but not so much that he’s subservient. You don’t want a guy who easily agrees with just about anything that you have to say.
Raised eyebrows mean playfulness, a desire to connect and at the same time challenge you just a little bit.
9) He Tilts His Head
Think about how dogs tilt their heads when you talk to them. They do it out of curiosity and interest. When you say a word they like, they tilt their head to the side and wag their tails.
Guys can’t really wag their tails but tiling their head comes in close second.
A guy might unconsciously tilt his head when he’s interested in hearing an idea of yours or just generally curious about you.
You might catch him tilting his head when he’s thinking and figuring out things to say to you.
10) He Gets Flushed
Blushing isn’t just exclusive to girls. Guys can get pretty flushed too especially if they’re caught off guard with something.
It could be anything from compliments to interesting questions – if you trigger flushness out of him, it might be because he’s hyper aware of what you’re thinking and saying.
In other words, he’s very much interested in you and what you have to say.
11) His Pupils Dilate
Pupil dilation is another easy, physical sign. The body has no control over this and is an automatic reaction to seeing something we like.
Dilation is the brain’s response to registering something that it likes or is attracted to.
If you talk to a guy and notice that his pupils dilate, it’s probably because he’s fond of you. Just to be sure, you could ask others to take notice of his eyes when they talk.
If this generally happens with other people, he might just be a generally curious person who enjoys interacting with people.
12) He Touches His Face A Lot
One easy way you can tell if a guy likes you is if he subconsciously touches his face while looking at you. Some ways he could do this include:
- Rubbing his chin
- Touching his ears
- Stroking his cheek with the back of his fingers
- Wrapping his hand around his jaw
- Fixing his hair
It’s hard to say exactly what causes this, but it’s generally a combination of preening, nervousness, and excitement.
When you look at someone you’re attracted to, your skin becomes extra-sensitive, which is why we end up touching our skin subconsciously.
13) He’ll Smooth Up His Hair
There’s not much we can change about the way we look, especially if all you have is a moment or two.
But one way you can marginally improve your appearance in a split second is by fixing your hair.
If your hair is falling a little to the wrong side or slightly awkwardly, it can make you look less than your ideal self.
So if a guy seems to be obsessed with his hair whenever you two are in the same room, it could definitely be a sign that he’s into you.
But of course, he’ll never do it when you’re looking directly at him, so try to steal a glance whenever he thinks you’re not looking.
You’ll probably see him with his hands on their way to his hair.
14) He’ll Be On The Edge Of His Seat
A guy who wants you won’t be able to control the way his body naturally reacts in your presence, and one huge indicator of his attraction is whether he’s pointed to you or not.
If you two are sitting opposite at a table, he’ll literally be sitting on the edge of his seat without realizing, just because his body likes inching towards you and being as close to you as he can be without being weird.
This will also be reflected in the directions his body parts point whenever you two are standing or sitting together.
His knees, feet, and general direction will usually be pointed towards you if he’s got a strong physical attraction for you.
And if he’s one to cross his legs, then the top leg will almost always be angled in your direction.
15) He’ll Guide You Using His Hands
Whenever you two are out together — whether on a date or out with friends, or even at a work or social event — you always seem to find ways to put his hands on you in a socially appropriate manner.
For example, if you ask him where the bathroom is at a place, he won’t just point you in the right direction; he’ll lead you there, with one hand softly pressed against your back — your lower back, to be precise — and another hand maybe gently holding your arm.
Why does he do this?
He likes imposing himself on you, but in a good way. He wants you to know that he’s capable and he’s protective, and it’s also his way of showing everyone else in the room that you’re with him and he’s with you.
16) He Does A Lot Of Accidental Touches
Speaking of using his hands to guide you just so he can touch you — he also touches you in all the other little ways that are still socially appropriate, but not entirely necessary.
He touches you, grazes you, bumps you, and brushes against you much more often than people usually do.
At some point you might even think he’s just really clumsy or bad with personal space.
And the biggest sign?
He doesn’t seem to do it around other people. The accidental touching only happens to you, and he never says anything about it.
Why does he do it?
It could be that he’s just accidentally leaning towards you out of affection, but it could also be his way of hinting his interest.
17) He Shows You His Front Teeth
Guys don’t really “smile”. They laugh and they grin, but true wide smiles — the kind that show the front teeth — don’t really happen for most adult men. So if you see a man showing off his toothy smile to you because of something you said or did, that’s an easy way to tell that he’s into you.
Because he’s completely forgotten about keeping up appearances.
He’s totally lost in the conversation or the flirting, and all he wants is to keep going with you. It’s the kind of smile that says, “I’m having the time of my life and I don’t want it to stop.”
18) He Licks His Lips A Lot
We lick our lips when we see food we like and when we see a person we like.
The reason for this is that our mouth naturally creates extra saliva whenever you’re around someone who attracts you (or if you’re hungry!).
So keep your eyes on his lips whenever he’s around you. He won’t be doing it in an obvious, creepy, conscious way; he’ll be doing it subconsciously every now and then, and he might try to hide it by biting his lips instead.
19) He Stares At Your Face
It’s already a great sign if he’s not staring at your chest every time he looks at you. B
ut another perfect sign that he’s truly attracted to you and not just your body is that he seems to stare at your face whenever you talk, and not just your eyes.
Staring at the eyes is slightly cliche, and it usually means that someone is focusing on giving you their attention out of respect or necessity.
But if you see him not only staring at your eyes, but also veering to the rest of your face, then that is an obvious sign that he likes you.
He wants to take in every inch of your face — from your nose to your lips, your eyes to your cheeks — and his eyes dart from one area to another, almost as if he loses himself in your face sometimes.
20) He Takes A Deep Breath When He Sees You
When he looks at you, he can’t help but lose his breath for a second.
He literally gets his breath taken away in your presence, especially if he wasn’t expecting to see you right at that moment.
This is a physiological reaction that we have no control over; we subconsciously breathe in when we want to prepare ourselves for something, and in this case, it’s being in contact with you.
But there’s also a conscious reason why men breathe in when they see the woman they like.
Breathing in allows you to tuck in your waist while expanding your chest, making you look sexier and more desirable.
21) He Puts His Hand On His Hips
Putting your hands on your hips with your elbows pointed out — also known as holding your arms akimbo — is one of the easiest ways to subconsciously show your physical superiority over other people.
If you find that your presence seems to automatically trigger this kind of reaction in the men around you — or one specific man, at least — then it’s likely that you’re making him try to seek your attention.
22) His Toes and Pelvis Are Pointed Towards You
As we said above, when a person likes you, they will naturally angle and point towards you.
Some readers might think this only includes the arms, legs, and generally body position, but this can also include the less obvious parts of the body: the toes and the pelvis.
When he stands around you, are his feet almost perfectly pointed towards you? And when he talks to you, does it seem like he keeps his hands on his waist while leaning his pelvis towards you?
Here’s the thing: no man is consciously aware that they’re doing any of these things.
But when we find ourselves sexually desiring another person, we can’t help but lose control of the way we point and tilt.
23) He Mimics Your Mannerisms
This is almost classic body psychology 101: when a person likes you, they will subconsciously mimic your behavior.
This has been proven in countless studies, and it doesn’t just work romantically: if a person respects you, thinks you’re funny, likes you in any way, then they naturally start doing the same things you’re doing without even realizing it.
If you touch your face and cross your arms, then he’ll start touching his face and crossing his arms.
And if you call him out on it, his response will just be surprising. Because he doesn’t even realize that he’s doing it; his body just wants to mimic yours out of attraction.
Signs Are Just Signs; Don’t Mistake Them For Confirmation
No matter how signs of positive body language a man may be showing you (intentionally or not), it’s important to remember that body language signs are never a firm confirmation of their feelings for you.
While unlikely, even a guy showing you all the body language signs could just be doing it for no reason at all.
So check out for the signs, and if you start to feel that he might be truly liking you, find other ways to confirm his feelings.
The last thing you want to do is spring up on him with your feelings, only to wind up on the completely wrong page.
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