10 ways to know if you’re overthinking or he’s losing interest

Are you doubting that he’s losing interest in you? But also, chances are that you may be overthinking, right?

The thing is that overthinking about relationship issues is pretty common and also, normal.

But what if you want to realize whether it’s time to stop overthinking or he’s really losing interest in you?

If you’re ready to give up all the questions, doubts, and overthinking that have been eating away at you, you’re at the right place!

In this article, we’ll explore 10 ways to know if you’re overthinking or if he’s losing interest.

1) Does he ever initiate talking or texting with you?

The first and most obvious way to know if he’s losing interest in you is to ask yourself this question:

Does he ever initiate conversations with you? Does he ever try to ask you questions, express his feelings, or talk about anything different with you?

If the answer is no, then there’s a high chance that he’s losing interest in you. Why?

Because the tendency to initiate conversations with a girl is a sign of interest. It means that even though you’re already in a relationship, he still tries to express his feelings, asks you questions, and talks to you differently.

If that’s what he does, then you’re probably overthinking the relationship and you don’t have any real reason to worry.

But if he doesn’t initiate conversations with you, then it might be a sign that you’re not overthinking and he’s actually losing interest.

The thing is that when a guy doesn’t initiate conversations with you, it means that he’s not interested in you. And if he’s not interested in you, then he won’t try to ask you questions or talk to you about anything.

If you’re constantly initiating a conversation or a text but he’s only replying, it’s a sign that he’s showing disinterest.

So, if you’re trying to text him but he only replies when you text him, it’s a sign that he’s losing interest in you.

What’s more, if you’re the one who’s constantly initiating a conversation or a text but he’s only replying, it also can be another sure sign that he’s losing interest in you.

Does it mean that you’re overthinking?

Well, of course, it doesn’t mean that you’re overthinking.

But if he’s not interested in you and he’s not initiating conversations with you, it means that he’s losing interest in you. 

And if he’s losing interest in you, then there’s no point overthinking about it or trying to figure out why he’s losing interest.

2) Does he ignore your texts?

Let me take a wild guess.

Recently he stopped answering your texts and calls and tends to ignore you while before he would always reply to your texts.

As a result, you’re constantly overthinking his behavior and thinking that he might be losing interest in you.

What if he’s really losing interest in you? What if your relationship is over?

Well, it’s a good thing that you’re overthinking his behavior and not ignoring the signs that he’s losing interest in you. Otherwise, you may end up in a very bad situation.

Why?

Because another way to know if a guy is losing interest in you is by asking yourself this question:

Does he ever ignore your texts?

Does he ever stop replying to your text messages and messages?

The thing is that the tendency to stop replying to a girl’s texts can be a sign of disinterest.

If that’s what happens, it means that even though you’re already in a relationship, the guy still stops replying to his messages and doesn’t try to respond when she tries contacting him.

So, if this happens frequently with him, it can be a sign of his loss of interest in them or maybe even an indication that they’re overthinking their relationship or that they don’t really have feelings for each other.

That’s why you should consider this a red flag.

But you know what?

Overthinking about your relationship isn’t a solution. Instead, you should try to understand why he’s completely ignoring your text messages.

3) Do you have healthy communication?

You wouldn’t be surprised if we told you that if you notice you have unhealthy communication patterns in a relationship, it might be a sign that he’s losing interest.

Let’s be honest about maintaining healthy communication in relationships.

It’s not easy. Having unhealthy communication with your partner is enough to make you want to give up on love and walk away. 

But I want to suggest a solution. You have all the tools you need to do this right now, right where you are. 

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As Rudá explains in this transformational free video, love is available to us if we cut through the lies that we tell ourselves. 

We need to face the facts about intimacy and love. 

The alternative is to end up in loveless relationships or endless dating frustration that only leaves us cold and empty. 

The alternative is to be sunk in stagnant codependency and completely unable to resolve things like unhealthy communication with your partner. 

Rudá’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective. 

While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggles to find love for the first time – and finally offered an actual, practical solution to improve my communication with my partner.

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4) Does he make any effort to spend time with you?

Recently, you may have noticed that your partner has stopped making any effort to spend time with you.

It might be that they’re overthinking their relationship or that they’re not feeling like they have any feelings for you.

Or maybe it’s something else entirely.

But when a guy is completely ignoring your texts and making no effort to spend time with you, it might be a sign that he doesn’t care about you anymore.

Does this sound familiar?

If so, you’re probably getting more and more frustrated that your partner is making no effort to spend time with you.

What do you do?

If you’re like most people, you start getting angry. You start to overthink and become obsessive about your relationship. You might try to call or text him, but he never answers.

You’re probably feeling a bit sad and disappointed. You might even be depressed, angry, and confused.

And if you’re like most people, you start to blame yourself for the situation.

But let me tell you something about how human relationships work: it’s not always about us!

We can’t control how our partners act or feel; we can only control our reactions. 

This is especially true when dealing with men. 

Still, if you notice that he doesn’t make any effort to talk with you, try not to jump to conclusions that he’s losing interest in you. Instead, wait for a while to see if he changes his behavior. Try to figure out why he stopped making any effort to spend time with you.

5) Does he seem to have his priorities straight?

When a guy doesn’t make any effort to spend time with you, it can be frustrating. But it’s also a good opportunity for you to examine your relationship and see if you’re overthinking or if he’s really losing interest in you.

Let me explain how this works.

If you notice that he doesn’t have his priorities straight, it’s time for you to take a look at your relationship and see if there’s anything you’re doing that is causing him to lose interest in you.

If your partner seems like they have their priorities straight, it could mean that they are making an effort to spend time with you. Or maybe they’re just having fun hanging out with friends.  

Or maybe they’ve found someone new and want to focus more on that relationship than on you.

So if he does seem like he has his priorities straight and is making an effort to spend time with you, there’s nothing wrong with continuing your relationship as usual!

You can talk about what happened, what happened since then, and how things are going now – but do this only if he wants

But why does having straight priorities matter so much for relationships?

Well, if a guy doesn’t have his priorities straight and doesn’t spend time with you, it can be hard to keep the relationship alive.

If you’re a woman and you notice that he hasn’t been contacting you, it might mean that he’s lost interest in your relationship. And if this happens, there’s no point in trying to make it work.

But if you notice that he still makes an effort to spend time with you, then there might be something else going on. There might be some other issues or problems in your relationship that are causing him to lose interest in spending time with you.

So what do we do?

If this is something that has been happening for a long time, then your best option is to stop overthinking and directly ask him about his priorities.

Explain to him that you’ve noticed that he hasn’t been spending time with you lately and that you’re worried about the relationship.

Don’t say anything bad or try to manipulate him into doing something. Just tell him how important you are to him and how much you care about the relationship. And then decide what to do next together with your partner.

This will probably require some communication and talking things out so that both of you understand what’s going on.

But if this is something new, then there’s nothing wrong with trying to figure out what the problem is before making any decisions about breaking up or trying harder to make the relationship work again.

And in this case, you’re probably overthinking too much and he’s not even losing interest – there’s something else going on that you need to figure out.

6) Do you feel like you’re constantly trying to chase him?

One more sure way to figure out whether a guy has straight priorities is to ask yourself whether you’re constantly chasing him.

And if you are, then it might be because he doesn’t feel like he’s attracted to you or because he doesn’t feel like he has any feelings for you.

If a guy is constantly trying to chase you and is making an effort to spend time with you, then it’s probably because he feels like your relationship is important to him and that it’s worth keeping going.

But what if you’re the one who has to chase him while he’s not even trying to spend time with you?

If this is the case, it might be the right time to consider it as a red flag, because a guy who’s not interested in you is probably not going to be interested in spending time with you.

And if you’re the one who has to chase him and make an effort to spend time with him, then it might be because he doesn’t feel like he has any feelings for you and that he’s just doing it out of obligation.

And if this is the case, it might be better for you to know that before trying to keep your relationship going.

So if this is something that’s been happening for a while, then it might be time to make some changes in your relationship.

Why?

Because if you feel like you’re always chasing him to show interest in you but he’s not responding, it’s a sign that he’s losing interest in you.

So, if you feel like you’re constantly chasing him to show interest in you but he’s not responding, it’s a sign that he’s losing interest in you.

If this sounds familiar, keep in mind that having to chase your partner while in a relationship isn’t healthy. And overthinking is a natural reaction when you notice that something isn’t right in your relationship.

In this case, the fact that he’s making you chase him can really mean that he’s losing interest in dating you.

7) Can you manage to trigger his hero instinct?

Believe it or not, the majority of men enjoy feeling like everyday heroes. They love being in the position of being able to make their women happy and feel loved.

But can you actually manage to make him feel like an everyday hero?

Let me explain what I mean by triggering his hero instinct.

There’s a new theory in the relationship world that’s causing quite a stir – it’s called the hero instinct. 

Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept finally explains how men really think and feel in relationships. 

And it’s something most women have never even heard of. 

According to James Bauer, men don’t actually need a lot to feel content in their relationships. In fact, what they need has nothing to do with sex.

Men have certain innate drivers. And when a woman comes along and triggers them, it causes a powerful response. The result is a man who loves harder, commits wholeheartedly, and truly dedicates himself to the relationship. 

So, how can you trigger your man’s hero instinct? 

The easiest thing to do is to watch this simple and genuine video by James Bauer. 

The truth is, once you understand how the hero instinct works, there’s no telling what heights your relationship can reach. 

So if you want to give your man what he truly wants from you, make sure to check out James Bauer’s excellent video. In it, he reveals the exact texts and phrases you can use straight away.

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8) Does he ever discuss his plans with you?

Another surefire way to tell if your man is losing interest in you or you’re just overthinking is to check if he ever discusses his plans with you.

If he does, this is a huge sign that he’s losing interest in you.

Why am I so sure?

Well, the truth is that men are very much about planning for the future and discussing their plans with their partners.

And whenever you notice that he stopped discussing his future plans with you, you can consider it a huge red flag that something is wrong – and it could mean that he’s losing interest in you!

Keep in mind that this doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s cheating on you. But it does mean that something isn’t right.

For example, maybe he’s worried about money and wants to save money for a down payment on a house. Or maybe he wants to start a family and is thinking about whether to have children or not.

These are just two examples of things that men discuss with their partners all the time.

But another thing is that he might have just lost interest in you, and you two might need to look at the things you do and don’t do.

For example, maybe he’s lost interest in your conversations about sports because he doesn’t have time for it anymore. Or maybe he’s stopped talking to you because he’s tired of listening to you complain all the time.

Sadly, it’s also a very common reason why men lose interest and why relationships stop working.

But one thing is for sure: when he never discusses his plans with you, it’s a sign that he’s losing interest in you.

And it’s especially if you’re always trying to make plans with him but he never discusses his plans with you.

What can you do in this case?

Communicate with him! Ask him why his actions have changed so much and if there’s anything you can do to bring back intimacy in your relationship.

9) Does he avoid talking about serious topics with you?

Did you know that discussing serious topics with your partner is one of the most important things that can make your relationship better?

Some people don’t agree with this, but the truth is that you need to discuss serious topics with your partner all the time.

Why?

Because it’s a great way to maintain intimacy and feel like you’re on the same page with each other.

For example, you might think that you’re in a good relationship if you find yourself discussing everything, but this is definitely not true.

You might think that your partner is always interested in talking about the same things, but that’s not true either.

For example, maybe he doesn’t care about politics or sports anymore because he doesn’t have time for it anymore or maybe he doesn’t have anything to say on these topics.

So here’s the thing: discussing serious topics with your partner is one of the best ways to build intimacy in your relationship.

When you discuss serious topics with your partner, it shows that you care about each other and that you want to keep growing in your relationship. 

And when you make sure to have these kinds of conversations all the time, it helps you find out where each other stands and how to work on improving yourself and your relationship.

But what if he avoids talking about serious topics with you?

Does it mean that he’s losing interest in you?

Well, men generally like to talk about the important things in life. They want to discuss their plans with their partners; they want to talk about their future plans, and they also want to discuss serious topics with their partners.

And whenever a man avoids talking about serious topics with his partner, it means that there’s something wrong. And it can mean that he’s losing interest in you!

In that case, you’re not overthinking – there’s a problem in your relationship and the sooner you identify it, the better.

So just ask yourself: Does he avoid talking about serious topics with you?

If the answer is yes, then there’s a high chance that he’s losing interest in you. Why?

Because the tendency to avoid talking about serious topics with a girl is a sign of disinterest. It means that even though you’re already in a relationship, he still avoids talking about important things with you and tends to talk about less important things with you. 

If that’s what he does, then there’s no point overthinking about it or trying to figure out why he avoids talking about serious topics with you.

10) Does he seem distant?

And the final way to figure out if he’s losing interest in you is to assess not only his behavior but also his thoughts and feelings.

Do you notice that he feels more distant from you than he used to? Why does he feel distant?

That’s the question you should answer instead of overthinking and asking yourself things like

• Does he seem to be less interested in you than before?
• Does he seem to be avoiding you or ignoring you?
• Does he seem to be paying more attention to other girls?

The reason is that none of these questions will help you to identify if he’s losing interest in you.

It’s just that the answers to these questions may be the symptoms of a problem in your relationship, so instead of asking yourself such questions, try to figure out why he seems more distant from you than before.

And that’s the thing: when he’s losing interest in you, he’ll start to act distant. He won’t text you as often or call you as often. 

He won’t give you a kiss on the cheek or even hold your hand anymore.

To be honest, this is the most obvious way to tell if a man is losing interest in you.

Why?

Well, if a guy loses interest in you and starts acting distant, it means that he’s tired of being with you and that he wants to be with someone else instead.

It means that he doesn’t want any more contact with you and that he wants to end your relationship because it’s not working out for him anymore.

And when this happens, it means that either one of these two things happened: either your relationship wasn’t meant to last or one of the two of you has changed since it started.

Final thoughts

All in all, there are a lot of reasons why a guy might lose interest in you. He could be getting back together with his ex, he might be dealing with some serious family issues, or he might have met someone new.

But as you can see, you might just be overthinking his actions. That’s why you should try to trigger his inner hero and see how he reacts.

I touched on the hero instinct earlier – it’s the perfect remedy for the situation you’re facing. 

Why?

Because once a man’s hero instinct is triggered, he’ll only have eyes for you. You’ll reach a part of him that no woman has ever managed to reach before. 

And in return, he’ll be compelled to commit to you and love you like he’s never loved another woman. 

So if you’re ready to take that plunge and reach new heights in your relationship, make sure to check out relationship expert James Bauer’s invaluable advice.

Click here to watch the excellent free video.