Age is just but a number.
You’ve probably heard time and time again, but how true is it?
Maybe it’s true if you’re an older man dating a younger woman, but it’s incredible how stereotypical society gets if it’s the reverse.
Still, if you’re an older woman and have the hots for a dashing stud, don’t fret or feel embarrassed. It’s normal and if you’re looking for some indicators that he’s attracted to you too, you’re at the right place.
In this article, I’ll reveal the 16 obvious signs a younger man likes an older woman.
Why younger men crave mature women
But before delving into these giveaways, it would help to understand why a youthful guy would fall for a mature woman.
- He loves her confidence. The older women get, the more they know what they want – in bed and other areas. Plus, they aren’t afraid to get it. Many men find this quality attractive.
- Less drama. A mature woman is already established and has no time for unnecessary feats and tantrums. She’s level-headed and is ready to solve problems like an adult, unlike most younger women who let hell break loose for the smallest of issues.
- She has plenty to teach. An older woman has gained both unpleasant and pleasant lessons from life. She can pass these crucial lessons to the young man and help him know stuff he probably didn’t know, like how to satisfy a woman in bed and how a guy should behave.
- She is financially capable. A young man is still finding his way in life and, therefore, doesn’t have the cash to splurge. Unlike most women their age looking for a chance to wring his pockets dry, a mature woman is financially stable and only needs a life partner.
- No kids. Okay, though some youthful guys are crazy about children, most of them aren’t ready for the hassle and responsibility that comes with raising young ones. And cougars either have children who are all grown up or chose not to have them at all. With a career to focus on, the last thing such men would want is to split their attention between a life-determining purpose and little ones.
16 signs a younger man likes an older woman
With that out of the way, it’s time to take a quick hint from his subtle signs and enjoy the connection when it surfaces.
Here are some of the indicators you should look for:
1. He calls her a lot and sends sweet messages
No matter how busy we are, it’s an undeniable fact that we create time for those who mean the world to us. This is true even with younger men who are exploding with feelings of affection towards you.
From the time he saw you, had a chat with you and you exchanged numbers, your phone will rarely be in relax mode.
Whether it’s a casual phone call or some saucy message, he’ll always find a way to brighten your day.
You can keep the fire burning by replying to the calls and texts as soon as they come your way. It doesn’t mean you’re desperate. After all, you didn’t initiate the contact!
2. He’s not ashamed to be seen with her in public
Generally, older and younger people are more comfortable in their peers’ company unless, of course, they are related.
In the case of love, this beautiful and strong emotion breaks all age borders and draws the guy close to you even when you’re in a busy street.
He won’t mind wrapping his arm around your shoulder, hugging you, holding your hand, or even kissing you when everyone’s looking if you’re cool with all that. Heck, he’ll take a selfie with you and post it on his social media pages if he has to.
He’s genuinely proud of you and would like the whole world to know that.
What better way to show that than by shrugging off all that haters and naysayers say?
3. He’s really protective of her
Every man has the instinct to be protective of the woman he loves.
This wired-in feature can boost a younger man’s ego because he has something to bring to the table of their relationship.
What drives a younger man to protect an older woman from big (and little) things in life?
A relationship psychology would point to his hero instinct.
If you haven’t heard of the hero instinct before, it’s a new concept in relationship psychology that’s generating a lot of buzz at the moment.
Simply put, men want to be an everyday hero to the woman he cares about. He wants to step up to the plate and be there for her.
This is deeply rooted in his biology.
I know it sounds a bit silly. In modern times, women don’t need someone to be their “hero” to save the day.
And I couldn’t agree more.
But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to feel like they are a hero. Because it’s built into their DNA to seek out a relationship with a woman that makes them feel like one.
Although the hero instinct is amplified in younger men, there are still things you can do that was bring it out in him.
If you want to learn the words you can use, phrases you can say, and texts you can send to trigger the hero instinct in your guy, check out this excellent free video.
James Bauer, the relationship psychologist who first discovered the hero instinct, gives a terrific introduction to his concept.
I don’t often buy into popular new concepts in psychology or recommend videos. However, I think the hero instinct can be a game changer when it comes to developing a loving relationship with a younger man.
4. His pupils dilate
Our eyes naturally dilate to adjust the amount of light that enters through the eye’s lens. Intense physiological emotions, such as attraction, fear, or even surprise also cause the pupils to enlarge.
When the guy’s eyes dilate as you’re having a chat, this is a clear sign that he fancies you.
Though scientists still haven’t yet discovered why the pupils dilate when we’re in love, you can use the ‘look of love’ to your advantage to determine if he’s really into you or whether the intense chemistry between you will lead to a dead end.
Helpful tip: As you stare into his eyes, don’t be too fixated as it may translate to creepy. A tender but fixed occasional gaze his way will do the trick.
5. He’s timid around her
Men always want to look strong and fearless before the women they love.
It’s that characteristic that enables them to do stuff (especially difficult stuff) they probably couldn’t do before.
However, when it comes to being attracted to an older woman, it’s a big deal. Younger men can comfortably display their manliness to women their age, but cougars with lots of experience are more of an exciting challenge.
You’ll, therefore, notice that the man is shy around you. That’s his way of getting a grip on his emotions since he may not feel that he can match up to your standards.
Even if you notice it, don’t ridicule him or try to talk him out of it.
Nature has a way of dealing with things and before you know it, he’ll be cool around you once he knows you better.
Oh, and speaking of knowing you better…
6. He wants to know her as a person
There’s always the misguided notion that men are only after sex from a woman.
Sure, sex is essential to men, but once a younger man has a deep attraction towards you, intimacy will be the last thing on his mind.
He’ll zero in on knowing you more:
Your interests, hobbies, likes, dislikes, the like. What’s more, he’ll remember all those details and will prove it on various occasions.
You may feel uncomfortable opening up totally to him, but please note he means no harm. He’s letting you know that he respects you a lot and is interested in even the seemingly small pieces of info about you.
7. He never lets any chance to see her pass him by
If the younger man truly has a crush on you, he’ll go out of his way to ensure that he shows for any plans that you and he make together.
It’s no secret that most men come up with, or genuinely have, valid reasons for not showing up for a date, but a youthful guy knows the negative impact that missing out on plans you prepare will have on his chances with you.
Even on the rare moment that he fails to turn up, don’t judge him too harshly or rule him out too soon. He’ll apologize and make up for it the next time you’re together.
One of the main reasons youthful men will prefer mature women is they are searching for a long-lasting and serious relationship – something that most young women aren’t so keen on.
8. He flirts with her. A lot
Flirting does more for a relationship than you can ever imagine:
- It eliminates the predictability factor and gives an emotional high
- It brings partners or spouses closer
- It makes you feel great about your relationship
- It’s a confidence booster
- It relieves stress
- It makes nights you have with your partner unforgettable and days lively
- It helps the mind to be at ease, especially for women
- It’ll always make you feel sexy and happy
- It enables you to stay on your toes and avoid taking advantage of yourself or your partner
- It increases a couple’s interest in each other, more so if they’ve been together for long.
For a younger man who may not be so good at expressing his feelings verbally, winking at a cougar or checking her out is an essential way for him to make his intentions known.
His eyes will often go beyond settling on hers and wander off to her neck, chest, butt, and other areas of her body.
This is normal and he may be venturing off to unauthorized territory unintentionally.
Hey, the takeaway from that reaction is he’s nuts for you and loves what he sees!
You can get all flirtatious too and instead of being shocked or offended by his behavior, teasingly direct his eyes to where they should be with a verbal prompt like ‘My eyes are up here’ or ‘Love what you see?’
9. He’s always lending a helping hand
This doesn’t mean that he’s underestimating you. He’s just letting his natural male instincts take charge. All men have the built-in desire to have a special part in the life of the woman in their lives.
From offering his two cents on an issue that’s bugging you to carrying your grocery bags for you to repairing that creaky patio chair on your front porch, he’ll always go out of his way to ensure you’re okay.
When a younger man offers his help to you freely, it’s a big indicator that he likes you and wants to impress you.
The truth is men and women want different things from a relationship.
What do you think really drives him as a man?
You may think that men, especially younger men, are all about money, sex, food, sports, and power.
Sure, those things all come into play at times. But I think there is a deeper truth that few women are aware of.
Men are actually driven less by those external things above and more by how a relationship makes them feel about themselves.
Above all else men want to feel essential to the woman in his life.
I mentioned the hero instinct above. It’s a fascinating new concept in relationship psychology.
The simple truth is that a younger man wants to feel essential to you. And if you want your relationship to succeed, you need to let him.
The best thing you can do is watch this excellent free video by relationship psychologist James Bauer.
Some ideas are life changing. When it comes to relationships with younger men, this is one of them.
10. He’s courageous enough to ask her out on a date
Flirting is exciting but if it’s not going anywhere, it can leave anyone wondering if there’s any point to it.
What sets a younger man who’s emotionally mature from one who’s out for a quickie is he takes the step of asking a mature woman out.
It helps, however, for an older woman to avoid falling in love too soon and weigh him a little more as there’s no telling that he’s serious for sure just because he requests her for a date.
It may seem like an obvious step to take, but the relationship set up between people with a wide age gap is different. An older lady can ignore or fail to realize that the guy is serious if all he does is send her some romantic poems.
With that in mind, the youthful man will clear all her doubts and ask her for a meeting. It’s one heck of a milestone to him as he risks rejection, ridicule, and in the worst-case scenario, being overlooked.
11. He asks her to meet his family and would love to meet hers
Families are an essential part of anyone’s life, whether man or woman. Most people date without wanting to introduce their partners to their family or meeting theirs.
They may not see the relationship taking the next level.
However, if you’ve only dated someone for a couple of months, keeping things cool is alright coz you need to know as much as you can about them before letting them meet your folks.
Since the younger man-older woman pair is still under a lot of criticism (yes, in 2021), it takes a lot of guts for a junior guy to bring his older female crush to meet his family.
Or for him to meet hers.
He won’t care because he wants her to be a part of his life as much as possible and would like to be a huge part of her life too.
Ordinarily, on the surface, a man will base a woman’s attractiveness on her physical beauty. As he matures psychologically, he considers other characteristics such as her personality and mode of dressing too before taking her to meet his folks.
Meeting a woman’s family not only shows that a man means what he claims, but it also shows that he’s willing to do all it takes for her as well.
12. He doesn’t mind her having children and interacts with them
Any woman with kids knows how hard it is to find a lifetime partner. This is because men shy away from ladies with ‘baggage’ most of the time.
Their psychology teaches them to avoid drama, go for women with less commitment and find a lady without prior-date or marriage kids who can give him his own family.
If a younger man is attracted to an older woman, he knows what he’s getting himself into and realizes that she may have children.
Therefore, he goes the extra mile to know them better and make the best impression of himself that he can to them as they play a significant role in the success or failure of the relationship.
He also knows that she may not give him his own family due to either a personal decision or the age factor and is okay with it without putting any pressure on her.
13. He notices any small changes she makes and compliments her
It’s no secret that most guys suck at spotting changes a woman makes to her appearance, whether small or not.
Even if they notice, they’re mostly of a sexual nature, which makes a woman uncomfortable or feel harassed.
However, a younger man will be so taken away by an older woman they love to the extent of them identifying any new hairdo she rocks or those perfectly-manicured nails she flaunts and compliments her.
The level of reality in his compliments will effortlessly bring out his personality. Since he’ll mostly be shy around his crush, it’ll be easy to determine if he’s insincere.
Many times, the man won’t even know he is offering her some praise. These compliments may go beyond the ‘you’ve got a beautiful smile’ cliché.
He may compliment her for something she’s achieved or done. He may also commend her for a joke she shares (no matter how lame it may be) and accompany it nicely with a seemingly authentic laugh.
14. He listens more
And it’s not just because she has a beautiful voice. Though listening keenly is common practice for any man looking for a life partner regardless of her stage in life, it is mostly the case for a lovesick younger man who’s romantically interested in an older woman.
This is because he acknowledges that she has so much to share and is willing to learn from her.
When he’s with her and she’s saying something, he’ll try as much as possible to avoid distractions and show he’s attentive by nodding and, if necessary, ask questions wherever possible.
15. He’ll always maintain eye contact
What’s the point of a great conversation if eyes never lock in a passionate but tender gaze?
Eye contact is the most effective subtle language that lovers speak. It tells more about a person than anything they ever say will.
Regardless of how shy a younger man may be, he’ll return a gaze or stare an older lady offers all the time.
If he and the woman know each other from work or have been dating for a while, eye contact will come naturally, most times, even when there’s nothing to say.
On the other hand, if they met just a week ago or are still getting used to each other, eye contact may not be as powerful, but it’ll get better with more exposure.
16. He repeats phrases she uses and acts mature around her
Video games? Nope. A wild Saturday night out with the guys? Meh.
Once a younger man notices a mature woman and takes an interest in her, his personality changes without him even knowing it.
He’ll focus more on things that interest his crush and not only pick new words she uses, but use them too.
Youthful men tend to subconsciously or unconsciously get influenced by a mature woman. Their actions and words will reflect the affection they feel for the lady.
In some cases, he may even change his wardrobe to give himself a polished and more ‘grown-up’ look.
If he was more of a jeans and t-shirt type of guy before, he’ll slowly transition to a tucked-in shirt and khakis. Or a suit and dark shoes instead of sneakers.
It’ll be no surprise that his hobbies will change too to accommodate his newfound love.
Of course, the level of maturity that a man displays will vary from one man to another, and the personality of the woman he’s wooing.
A change that’s easy to spot is how his voice may change when he’s around you. As per scientific research, people of either gender alter their voices subconsciously when they’re with their partners.
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