Ah, the ambitious woman.
Every girl wants to grow up to be like her and men are too intimidated to approach her.
She knows what she wants and she is going to get it however she can.
If you relate to these 10 signs, then you yourself are probably an ambitious woman!
1. She knows exactly what she wants to achieve
Some people only have vague ideas of what success looks like to them.
They see online that the common idea of success is grand wealth, travels to beaches, and owning large homes.
So they adopt this definition of success, whether they actually feel fulfilled by it or not.
But an ambitious woman has a clear idea of where she wants to get to.
She isn’t aiming for some vague goal in the distance.
It could be that she wants her company to be at the top of its industry in a specific country by a specific date.
Maybe it’s to be able to work with a specific person, or have published a certain number of books.
These aren’t vague goals, which makes it easier for her to eventually achieve them.
2. Ambitious women are constantly busy.
They are always at the gym, at work, or running errands.
They have no time for boys because they are too busy making their moves in the career world.
An ambitious woman understands that she has great potential, and if she works hard then she will be at the top.
But life isn’t easy. There is always competition. This is why she works hard and gets the most out of herself.
3. Ambitious women are independent.
They know how to get what they want, and that is all on their own.
An ambitious woman would rather do it on her own than have someone do it for her.
She doesn’t rely on a man to get ahead. She relies on herself.
She understands that if she doesn’t work hard, then things will never get done, so she makes the moves necessary to get what she wants.
4. She shoots for the moon
They’re called “ambitious” for a reason. If they’re musicians, they aren’t the type to settle for just a record deal and some album sales.
They shoot for the moon: they imagine themselves winning the Grammy.
Others might already say that they’re a success already.
They’ll be performing at various concerts and shows often throughout the year.
But successful women never stop climbing; they’re always striving for more.
They do this by understanding the big picture and then setting smalls over a period of time to achieve that picture.
This allows them to keep going and avoid being stuck in a rut.
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5. She takes action every day
A truly ambitious woman knows that time is our most precious resource. It was Annie Dillard that wrote, “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives”.
If we aren’t allocating the time and energy needed to achieve a certain goal, it will never be fulfilled.
An ambitious woman realizes that the benefit of having an organized system is that it allows all the focus to be placed on the work itself.
According to James Clear, author of Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, all big things come from small beginnings, and it’s really your habits every day that determines where you’re going:
“All big things come from small beginnings. The seed of every habit is a single, tiny decision. But as that decision is repeated, a habit sprouts and grows stronger. Roots entrench themselves and branches grow. The task of breaking a bad habit is like uprooting a powerful oak within us. And the task of building a good habit is like cultivating a delicate flower one day at a time.”
An ambitious woman knows that implementing good habits in your life gets you closer to your goals with time.
6. She knows what she stands for
If we don’t know what you stand for, we’ll fall for anything.
An ambitious woman knows that understanding your own personal values allows you to know what’s worth spending time on and what isn’t.
She understands exactly her own set of personal values.
These can range from family and friendships to honesty and humility.
The key point here is that if you’re clear on what’s important to you, then you’re likely to be successful in those areas. Being clear is a powerful skill that makes achieving success a lot easier.
Successful women channel their resources towards a small number of tasks to engender a better outcome.
In Morten T. Hansen’s, From Great at Work: How Top Performers Do Less, Work Better, and Achieve More, he described how top performers focus on a small number of tasks to produce high-quality work:
“Once they had focused on a few priorities, they obsessed over those tasks to produce quality work. That extreme dedication to their priorities created extraordinary results. Top performers did less and more: less volume of activities, more concentrated effort.”
So an ambitious and successful woman understands that if she is clear about her priorities and values, she is likely on the right path to success.
7. They take ownership of their actions
No matter who you are, there are going to be points where something goes wrong.
Maybe the client wasn’t able to receive the brief or a dicey investment lost the company some money.
An ambitious woman knows that without taking responsibility for these actions, nothing productive is going to come from it, which increases the likelihood of it happening again.
Successful people take responsibility for their mistakes and modify their behavior and their systems to ensure that such things don’t happen again.
In fact, according to Shane Snow, bestselling author of Smartcuts: How Hackers, Innovators, and Icons Accelerate Success successful people tend to prefer negative feedback to positive feedback:
“The research showed that experts—people who were masters at a trade—vastly preferred negative feedback to positive. It spurred the most improvement. That was because criticism is generally more actionable than compliments.”
Ambitious women just want to get better, so they are extremely motivated to learn from their mistakes and negative feedback.
8. She doesn’t have time for jerks trying to take advantage of her
An ambitious woman has no time for guys who are only interested in her body.
She’s been burned enough by guys in the past who have taken advantage of her and treated her like sh*t.
Because of these experiences, she’s mastered the skill of sniffing jerks from a while away.
She has too many things to do to waste time on a guy with bad intentions.
And sometimes she appears cold, ruthless, and darn right bitchy. But this is what she must do if she’s going to avoid those kinds of guys again. It’s part of her nature now.
Instead, an ambitious woman focuses on dating guys or girls who are genuinely good people.
People she can connect with on a deep level and create meaningful relationships with.
9. She tries to keep it positive
An ambitious woman knows that patterns, when left unchecked, can define who she is over time.
This is why she chooses to focus on the positive side of things as much as she can.
She doesn’t dwell on her mistakes. She doesn’t spend too much time focusing on the past.
She knows that you never really move on if you can’t let go of failures.
Being ambitious and successful is all about moving forward and improving.
Sure, it’s important to learn from mistakes, but once they’ve learned what they need to learn, they move on and stay focused on their goals.
10. She stands up for her beliefs
A successful and ambitious woman isn’t on the lookout for arguments, but she also isn’t afraid to say what she thinks.
A hallmark trait of a successful woman is to express her opinions even when her beliefs are against the majority.
She doesn’t express her opinion rudely, or with the intention of annoying others, but she simply states her opinions in a calm and matter-of-fact way.
While some people who can’t think outside of the status quo find this intimidating, most people respect honesty and the ability of someone to speak from the heart.
A successful and ambitious woman knows herself well and what she believes in. When she sees something that goes against those beliefs, she’ll always speak up.
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